Jewish World Review May 20, 2003 / 18 Iyar, 5763
Women pretending to be men
With great enthusiasm, USA Today featured a front-page article
in its "Life Section" on the allegedly booming industry of "bachelorette"
parties. Mirroring bachelor parties, these parties feature male hunks
stripping and performing lap dances on the bride-to-be and some of her
The article was accompanied by a large color photo of one
attractive bride-to-be ecstatically smiling while a male stripper with long
hair on his head and no hair on his chest rubbed himself on her thigh.
We are told that such bachelorette parties are increasingly
common, the modern woman's answer to bachelor parties featuring a
groom-to-be, his male friends and female strippers. As women are now the
equals of men throughout society, we are told, they are equal here, too.
Trouble is, the whole thing is largely untrue and entirely sad.
It is not untrue in terms of the reporting -- such parties are
taking place. What is untrue is the message -- that female sexuality is so
similar to men's that women enjoy ogling male nudity and long to touch
anonymous naked men.
I asked young women listeners to my radio show to call and tell
me if, moral values aside, they could imagine themselves excited by a bunch
of gorgeous men taking their clothes off and rubbing their bodies on them as
female strippers do for men. Overwhelmingly they called (and wrote) to say
that such images actually turned them off. The few who said they would like
it, under questioning came to realize that they hardly like what men like.
For example, a 29-year-old woman who described herself as highly
sexually charged was adamant that just as a man could get excited with a lap
dance from a nearly naked woman, she could really get into a male stripper
doing the same. I asked her two questions:
If any of the male strippers said he wanted to have sex with you
in an adjacent room, values aside, would you go?
Would you go with the male stripper into a private room away
from your women friends and have him rub his naked body all over you?
I could have asked her many more questions to explain how
different her sexually charged femaleness is from that of even a normally
charged male: Would she like all the male strippers to rub their hands all
over her body, under her clothing? Men would. Would she get turned on
watching the males have sex with one another? Men fantasize women doing
For virtually every woman on planet Earth, the answers to these
and many other questions -- most of them unfit for a family newspaper -- are
no. For virtually every male on the same planet, the answers are yes.
The differences between men's and women's sexual natures are
enormous. The objectification of the female body that is natural to the
heterosexual male (as is the objectification of the male body to the
homosexual male) is so devoid of emotional or intellectual meaning as to be
unfathomable to women.
Nevertheless, our society has played a terrible trick on many
women. It has told them that equality means acting the same as men. That is
how you have the utterly false spectacle of women acting thrilled to have
anonymous men strip and rub themselves on them.
It is also a function of anger. Many women are not thrilled at
the prospect of soon-to-be-husbands getting all aroused with naked strippers
on their laps. So here's their response: "See, men, we can do it, too." But
they really can't.
The false attempt to act like males also explains the current
phenomenon of the female sexual predator -- whatever men can do, women can
do better. But such behavior, like the bachelorette party, is all pretend,
created by a generation of women deliberately confused about their sexual
identity by feminism and the university.
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JWR contributor Dennis Prager hosts a national daily radio show based in Los Angeles. He the author of, most recently, "Happiness is a Serious Problem". Click here to comment on this column.
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