In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 19, 2011 / 17 Tamuz, 5771

As a woman ages, she should lighten up

By Betsy Hart

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Over the last several months I have gone blond. Well, kind of blond. Light caramel with blond streaks, you might call it. But enough that the change is very noticeable.

This is not all-out brassy blond, as I did for a little while when I turned 40, much to the chagrin of my children -- and at least one dear friend who said, "Bets, I don't think that works for you." Love her. That was simply an experiment, perhaps subtle rebellion at entering my 40s.

This is self-defense blond. Self-defense against gray. Another good friend my age says, "The decline in gray hair in women has been a net-plus to civilization." As she puts it, going blond is "so easy, so non-surgical." Naturally, this is the same friend who declares that by the time a woman turns 45, she ought to start lying about her age five years ahead. Her point is that if you lie backwards, you will inevitably be compared with, say, real 40-year-olds. Who wants that at 45? Much better to say that you are 50. Then it's, "Oh my gosh, you look fantastic!"

My mother put it slightly differently when she said, "I don't want to look young for my age, I want to look good for my age." She also maintained until the end that in every woman's life there are the "maintenance years, the high-maintenance years and then the replacement years." I miss her.

Anyway, here's the thing: I started going gray when I was 25. I received comments even then about how young I was to have the gray hair that I did. I didn't mind it so much because I was obviously too young for my gray. It's when you are not obviously too young for your gray that it's time to get serious about it.

I fought it for many years as I sought to stay dark. But either it got expensive or time-consuming -- or when I tried to take things into my own hands, my hair got that inky blue-black look, not unlike Morticia Addams'.

I finally looked around and realized that so many women I know, my age or a little older, who had once had dark hair no longer did. So, age really does bring some wisdom: as in, gray is just so much less noticeable in blond hair. And gray should be fought in all things, says my good friend. Except in furniture, where it is quite chic.

The prospect of lightening began. I had learned from my days as a brassy blonde (well, more like a few months) what not to do. This was going to be my phase as a mature blonde. Like I said, age and wisdom and all that. I actually wasn't planning on any dramatic change. But I guess a little blond can go a long way. And now I'm fully "light caramel." Even my children approve. And the one who warned me away from the brassy look a few years ago? She loves this blond me. I do love her.

Yep. So easy, so non-surgical.

So, do blondes really have more fun? It's hard to say. At least for me, since I've always been pretty good at having fun, I do know that a fairly dramatic change like this at my -- ahem -- age is certainly quite enjoyable.

I also know it's hard to get more superficial than worrying about one's hair color. Not impossible, mind you; just hard. But what the heck. It's like painting a wall in your home a dramatic new color. Which I also do from time to time. So easy, but so much difference. And done right, rather exciting.

It just seems to me that with all the serious things one has to consider in life, sometimes it's simply fun to be able to, well, lighten up a little.

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