In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 26, 2013/ 15 Nissan, 5773

The end of dating?

By Betsy Hart

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Perhaps one of the biggest changes in the dating culture over the last century was the introduction of the car. Before that, a young man would typically come into a woman's home for courtship and that was ... about all there was since he would likely be under the watchful eye of her family.

Then, with the widespread introduction of the auto in the 1920s, for the first time a young couple had the freedom to drive away. Etc.

Leap ahead not quite a century, and dating has changed again. Radically. In fact, many young people don't "date" anymore. Several books and, most recently, The New York Times piece "The End of Courtship," by Alex Williams, chronicle the rise of a new culture. It's not just the "hookup" culture in which young people meet for sex only, it's a social-media-hookup world. No planning, no forethought -- just a "What's up? Wanna get together?" vibe.

As Williams puts it, "In the context of dating, it removes much of the needs for charm; it's more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble."

These trends are accelerating, and women in particular bemoan them. But make no mistake: Many men do, too. That's according to those who've studied the trend, like Donna Freitas, a religion professor whom Williams cites. She is the author of the forthcoming "The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused about Intimacy" (Basic Books).

In any event, the addition of social media, according to Williams, is a factor in "the end of courtship." But cars changed things, too, and while surely many parents were disturbed at the freedom autos provided in the 1920s, '30s, '40s and beyond, at least the endgame of marriage was still the same as it had been. In fact, marriage rates hit an all-time high in the U.S. as World War II ended. Today they are at an all-time low.

Yes, we can blame a lot of different factors for this current situation. But surely one of the big ones? Women. You read that right.

Used to be, it seems, that if women had high expectations and a man wanted her -- well, he had to rise to those expectations or move on.

Women, apparently, no longer have those high expectations. They'll too often respond to a booty-text at 11 at night. They will put up with the last-minute " 'sup?" calls at 11:30.

Whether it's single women in their 20s who bemoan how difficult it is to find a good man, or the women my age who say the same, almost to a one they end up "putting out" early in the relationship (whether they want to or not) and putting up with a certain level of nonsense. All because they think they can't ask for more.

Yep, men are off the hook in the hookup culture.

Ironically, our culture says women should "keep a guy who doesn't pursue you but expects you to jump into bed with him," but "dump the guy who doesn't understand your feelings like your best girlfriend does."

Yet whenever I meet a woman who holds out to be courted, inevitably she is having better relationships. The Times piece, only at the very end, described one such young lady:

"Cheryl Yeoh, a tech entrepreneur in San Francisco, said that she has been on many formal dates of late -- plays, fancy restaurants. One suitor even presented her with red roses. For her, the old traditions are alive simply because she refuses to put up with anything less."

I know a few young women -- just a few -- who have shared similar stories with me of expecting to be picked up for a real date planned in advance and initiated by him, for him to bring up the subject of marriage before the subject of sex -- and having their expectations met.

So what's going on with the other women, who settle for what they don't want and so don't end up getting what they hope for? My guess is that they are afraid of being alone. That's powerful, especially as one gets older. I know that fear. I myself had to walk away from more than one relationship before meeting and marrying my prince last year!

And no, I'm not arguing that doing the right thing will always get you the right relationship you crave.

But this much is true: While men are wonderful, we women typically set the standard when it comes to relationships. And social media aside, if we set it low, it will inevitably be met.

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