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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Dec. 26, 2006 / 5 Teves, 5767

Looking for the who of you

By Suzanne Fields

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Donald Trump gave Miss U.S.A. a generous Christmas present. He told Tara she could keep her tiara.

"I've always been a believer in second chances," said the man who made his name firing luckless losers who flubbed a first and only chance. Tara's first chances apparently included underage drinking and public smooching with strangers in bars. Her second chance requires rehab and establishing herself as a "great example for troubled people [who] have problems with alcohol, that have problems for life."

That's a tall order for a girl who just turned 21. Second chances are starting at younger and younger ages. You don't have to be a beauty queen to be beset by temptations before you're an adult, or sponsored by a fatuous billionaire who expects you to be a "role model," to see such superficiality as only skin deep.

In our highly hyped media culture we focus on the fall of others because it makes us feel better about ourselves. We're not about to learn anything from that. There's a lot of free advice in the media and available on the Internet, but the 21st century is characterized more by admiring self than learning by example. What we take from the media and off the Web is more about self-enhancement than self-perception.

Time magazine was on to something by naming "You" as its "Person of the Year," complete with a mirror on the cover. "See thyself" has replaced "Know thyself" as the adage to live by. But Time's emphasis is all wrong. Spreading the news with raw, unedited data and making image projections on YouTube.com and MySpace.com create only a public persona. It may or may not have anything to do with the who of you.

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We've moved from the Age of Narcissism to the Age of Self-Importance. When Narcissus saw his face reflected in a pool of water he leaned over to kiss the reflection, and drowned. When we look at the mirror on the cover of Time we celebrate the idea behind the reflected image. Time warns against romanticizing the "You" of "You," but it romanticizes by suggesting that the collective person of the year provides "an opportunity to build a new kind of international understanding, not politician to politician, great man to great man, but citizen to citizen, person to person."

Say what? Many of the people Time features have the self-insight of a snail. They may have done something with a political impact, such as the deed of the young man who brought down Mark Foley, the Florida congressman, by posting on a Web site the geeky amorous e-mails received from the congressman 11 years earlier. Now the older but not much wiser man is bitter that he got fired for taking advantage of his company computer to blog about it. He's miffed that no good job offers came of his "15 minutes of fame." Imagine.

One college senior who boasts of acquiring 700 "friends" with her profile posted on Facebook.com can't imagine how anything got done in college before Facebook. "Older people had handwritten letters or called each other or whatever," she says. "I mean, really, we have a much more convenient way of doing things." (Especially since we got rid of "whatever.")

There's no Luddite here. I'm writing this on my Dell desktop computer with an Athlon dual core 2X processor (whatever that is) after checking out my favorite Web sites. The Internet has its special uses and we can't any longer expect letters written with a fine and careful hand. But appreciating technology for its virtues does not require being oblivious to its vices. "You," so celebrated by Time, elevates more than a few mediocre minds and untalented men and women. "You" often fails to separate the chaff on the chip from the substantive wheat of facts that demand the scrutiny of a discriminating editor.

The popular media sets trends, but it's not a thoughtful tastemaker or a careful fact checker. Brian Williams, anchorman of the NBC Nightly News, asks an important question: "The whole notion of 'media' is now much more democratic, but what will be the effect on democracy?"

Walt Whitman was the great poet of our democracy. When he celebrated himself he celebrated everyone. He was hopeful about the ways the culture of democracy shaped the lives of children. "There was a child went forth every day,/ And the first object he look'd upon, that object he became,/And that object became part of him for the day or a certain part of the day,/ Or for many years or stretching cycles of years."

That should give anyone pause, with or without tiara or even a mirror.

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