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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 4, 2014

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

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Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review Oct. 18, 2007 / 6 Mar-Cheshvan 5768

Let's hear it for the old fogies

By Suzanne Fields

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | In America the young are always ready to give to those who are older than themselves the full benefits of their inexperience. — Oscar Wilde, dead white man

The celebrated English wit was right, and usually in the past adults weren't afraid to be old fogies, ready to shake an index finger at childish behavior. It was about helping the young grow up with a sense of responsibility. But somewhere in the last half of the 20th century a permissive culture put the children in charge. The wisenheimers who four decades ago vowed never to trust anyone over 30 are themselves over 60 now, but the residue of that permissiveness lingers still. It hurts the underclass most of all.

This is hardly news to anyone paying attention. The '60s generation that rebelled against the Man in the Gray Flannel Suit is still triumphant in the popular culture dictated by Hollywood, where men in tuxedos show up for formal occasions in tennis shoes, without ties. The rich and famous can always get away with such things. The underclass has less wiggle room, and their rebelliousness is considerably more off-putting than their fashion in dress (though baggy prison pants doesn't do them any good).

What is news is that two prominent black men are now speaking out in a fresh way, calling for an end to what has come to be known as ghetto culture. We're not talking about Al Sharpton or Jesse Jackson, purveyors of the victim scam. The prophets for change are Bill Cosby, the entertainer, and Alvin Poussaint, the professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Their new book is called "Come On People: On the Path from Victims to Victors."

Bill Cosby, famous for his television sitcom depicting an ordinary middle-class family, a kind of black "Father Knows Best," focuses now on blacks who haven't cracked the middle class. He's gone from acting to preaching, and he's delivering a powerful sermon he heard from a pastor in Wilmington, Del.

This pastor, Cosby told Tim Russert on "Meet the Press," talks about discipline through "shakedown." In a prison shakedown, guards go through the cells to search for drugs and crude handmade weapons. Rev. Derrick Johnson, who is also known as Pastor D, tells his congregation to call a "shakedown" of your child's room: "Your child didn't buy that room, your child's not paying rent. You're trying to keep your child from being murdered, from going to jail. Look under his mattress, make sure your kid doesn't have a gun. Look into materials on the wall. What is your kid talking about? Is it dangerous? This is part of love, and this is what we have to do, regardless of race, color or creed."

Bill Cosby moves from the room to the culture. He demands an end to obscene lyrics that degrade women, that endlessly recite the "N-word." When white ladies offered a similar message more than 20 years ago, they were excoriated by Hollywood glamorosos as do-good censors. Here's Bill Cosby 20 years on: "The N-word is a vile symbol of our oppression by slave masters." It's no more acceptable for blacks to use it than for whites. He tells of a friend whose record producer asked him to write rap about rape. "You're talking about my mother," the writer said. "Well," the producer responded, "if you don't want to write it, then I'll get somebody else who will."

Gangsta rap may make a young black man feel tough, Bill Cosby observes, "but not so tough he can walk through prison walls." It can "jazz" young men into sexual passion, but it can't make them good fathers.

It has not been easy to say such things in public without inviting sneers and scorn, and Cosby and Poussaint have taken their share of ridicule and disdain. But they sound like grown-ups with common sense, offering advice to children that will ultimately turn into dollars and cents. They prescribe teaching standard English as a first language, even suggesting that blacks watch "My Fair Lady." Speaking properly lends confidence and competence. The new path requires a fundamental change of the walk and the talk, of attitude: "Blaming white people can be a way for some black people to feel better about themselves, but it doesn't pay the electric bills."

Art and morality are often at odds. Artists push the envelope of civility and decency. But we live in an age where the mark of the lowest common denominator misleads the most vulnerable among us. "Come On People" isn't just about blacks. It's a cry for all of us to get our act together. It's about time the culture grew up.

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