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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

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April 14, 2014

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Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

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Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

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April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

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Jewish World Review Feb. 27, 2007 / 8 Adar, 5767

Sandra Dee and Britney Spears

By Suzanne Fields

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Long ago and far away
In a land that time forgot,
Before the days of Dylan
Or the dawn of Camelot,
There lived a race of innocents
And they were you and me,
Long ago and far away
In the land of Sandra Dee.

The playful poet Leland Waldrip captures the nostalgic significance of Sandra Dee, the poster girl for the grandparents of the Britney Spears generation. Britney was a Mouseketeer; Sandra played Gidget. She was the original wholesome girl next door. Her real life was anything but — she was anorexic, and had "issues" with alcohol and drugs.

But for the teenagers who grew up with her, she was "queen of teen" demure, perky and radiating innocence. That was then and this is now, and it's harder to be a symbol of inexperience when no one has any inexperience.

We hadn't seen enough of jets
To talk about the lag,
And microchips were what was left
At the bottom of the bag.
And hardware was a box of nails,
And Bytes came from a flea,
And rocket ships were fiction
In the Land of Sandra Dee.

Every generation has its heroes and heroines reflecting the culture. Celebrities once worked to be part of that reflection. But everything runs at double time now, and Sandra Dee was in the public eye a long time ago. Cultural expectations ain't what they used to be.

A Newsweek cover story asks: "Girls Gone Wild: What Are Celebs Teaching Kids?" Well, probably not much. The entire media is saturated with sexual images that would have put a blush on Sandra Dee's perfect cheek, leaving celebs with nothing new to say. Britney attracts attention by showing the whole world that she's not wearing panties, but the appeal to vulgar sexiness is only one small drip in the drip, drip, drip of influences gone wild.

High-tech images have outrun the cultural groundings that were once part of what "All-American" was all about, even when honored mostly in the breach. Privacy was a virtue, and of course there were girls in Sandra Dee's high school who did "it," but they were terrified that someone might find out about it. Now girls advertise their sexuality on Internet websites, detailing intimate details of their lives to faceless strangers.

Such premature exposure in public changes the context for growing up. Authentic experience pales in a virtual world writ large in word and image. Transparency and nudity become interchangeable. Such tawdry homemade celebrity eliminates the need for discipline or talent. Baseline standards for aesthetic and moral measurements disappear. Notoriety is all.

Internet diaries of young women include all manner of sexual experiences, described with no inhibitions in word and few in action. Instead of simply running at the mouth, these young women write barely coherent run-on sentences to create cut-and-paste relationships.

In "Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both," Laura Sessions Stepp of The Washington Post describes a searing picture of sex life in college today. "Young woman have changed not only the way they relate intimately to young men, but also the way they think about intimacy." The young girl who once yearned to be told "I love you" by her boyfriend now wants anything but that. Intimacy equals impermanence, a dichotomy that spills over into goals for jobs and life plans. A hookup does not hold a lock on love, but if it did, the passkey would be passed around (and around). Even middle-school girls offer guys oral sex to be "liked," not loved. They usually don't get either.

College students and young women in their 20s are described as "girls" because that's how they refer to each other, particularly in middle- and upper-class families who have been protected and coddled to the point that they can't (or won't) think of themselves as adults. Adulthood requires passing through certain life stages, which definitely includes moving away from the protection of family, into a job, with thoughts toward making a family of one's own. Postponed milestones beget postponed adulthood.

New York magazine tells of adolescent adults who take pleasure in being known through their online diaries and posted photos. They have grown up with computers, and many see themselves as public figures, virtually if not literally. The generation shift is huge.

Oh there was truth and goodness
In that land where we were born,
Where navels were for oranges,
And Peyton Place was porn.
For Ike was in the White House,
And Hoss was on TV,
And G-d was in his heaven
In the Land of Sandra Dee.

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