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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

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Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

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April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

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April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

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Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 2, 2014

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Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review Nov. 1, 2005 / 29 Tishrei, 5766

He goes to war; she fights her own

By Mitch Albom

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | This is a story about a job and a soldier and how one Michigan woman had to say goodbye to both.

Suzette and Jerry Boler have been married 22 years. They have children and grandchildren. As a member of the National Guard, Jerry, a mechanic, recently was called up to serve in Iraq. Suzette wanted to be with him before he left. So she notified her employer, Benefit Management Administrators, in Caledonia, Mich. Boler, 40, worked part-time as a receptionist, answering phones and opening mail. She was paid, she says, $9 an hour, to work Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

She was granted three days off, without pay, to accompany Jerry to Indiana, where his unit was stationed, before he left for Fort Dix. She says she told her human resources person that she might not be able to get back on Monday, as her husband's actual departure was sometime on Sunday.

"I promised I would be back on Tuesday morning," she says. And the HR person said, "Do your best."

On Monday, Boler says, she was too exhausted and emotionally spent to go to work. That afternoon, she got a call from the human resources person.

"She told me I was terminated," Boler says. "I was flabbergasted. I said, 'Are you firing me?' And she said, 'Yes, you're fired.'"

The next day, Boler and her father went to the office. They asked to speak with the president of the company, Henry Bledsoe. Things got emotional. Voices were raised. "His comment was, I was supposed to be there three days a week, and if I couldn't handle that, he'd find somebody that would," Boler says. "He said my husband was just going to war. He wasn't dead yet."

He wasn't dead yet? That seemed hard to believe. So I called Bledsoe. And, after a public relations man called me back — he said he'd been hired to deal with the fallout — Bledsoe himself called. Not surprisingly, his story was different.

He claimed Boler was a less-than-ideal employee who used the fax machines, phones and Internet for excessive private use. He claimed that she'd taken "half-days" off before and that "we were going to fire her a couple of times" but decided to "extend her mercy one more time."

But when I asked if he'd actually said "he's not dead yet" about her husband, he did not deny it. He said that Boler was "wailing" and he was trying to calm things down.

It didn't work.

Boler went to the media. And the media came crashing down on Bledsoe and his company. Boler insists she had no idea her job was on the line or she would have made it in no matter what. Bledsoe, who admits "I probably should have picked my words better," still insists "we bent over backwards for Suzette. There comes a time to say we've got a company to run."

In the end, everybody suffers. And it makes you wonder why companies that can handle the most complex transactions in cyberspace can't master common sense down here on earth.

If Bledsoe's company had "endured" Boler for that long, why not let her come back after her husband's departure to see whether things improved? Didn't anyone realize it was cruel to fire someone less than a day after her husband left to fight a war?

Bledsoe told me he and his brothers had all served proudly in the military. He said this as a defense.

But last week I spoke with another military man, a reservist who'd finished a year in Iraq. He said the day his unit moved into its quarters, a friend was killed by a rocket.

The first day. He was stunned. He thought there would be grace period before the killing began.

War knows nothing about grace periods.

But a company should.

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