In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review August 27, 2013/ 21 Elul, 5773

What You Had That Your Kids Do Not

By Lenore Skenazy

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Card playing. Five kids and I, ages 12 to 15 (and, ahem, beyond). We're sitting at a shady picnic table at the bungalow colony where we spend our summers, and I'm teaching the kids pit.

Some explanations:

  • Pit is a simple, fast card game that debuted in the early 1900s, modeled on the commodities pits where traders shouted their bids for such things as corn and pork bellies. (Although, there is no mention of pork bellies in the game. Corn, yes.)

  • A bungalow colony is also something that debuted about that time. It's anywhere from 10 to a hundred small cabins clumped together in the countryside, where residents spend the summer. Up until the 1970s, there were hundreds of these colonies in the Catskills an hour or two outside New York City. Moms and their kids would spend June through August there; dads would drive up for the weekend. Most of these colonies died out as fancier vacations and camps cropped up. But the one we go to — Rosmarins Cottages, in Monroe, N.Y., 40 miles from Manhattan — hasn't changed a lot since it opened in 1941 — except in 1958, they put in a pool. And last year, we got Wi-Fi.

  • Kids are a group of youngish humans who are constantly absorbed in electronic pursuits, unable to hold a thought or conversation and terminally stuck inside — bored, fat and surly, particularly during their teen years. Or so they say.

But here's the deal.

As we're playing this incredibly old-fashioned card game outside our incredibly old cabin so incredibly tiny that you can't be washing dishes when the bathroom door opens or you'll get hit on the bum, one of the visiting youngsters sighs, "I wish we had a bungalow."

Sighs another, "Me, too."

What? These kids live in lovely air-conditioned homes! What is the appeal of a summer shack?

"Friends," says one — a girl.

"Exactly. Friends," says the other — a boy.

It's not that these kids don't have friends in their neighborhoods. It's that they never see them. The bungalow colony is sort of a nature preserve for humans. There's always someone kicking around outside. Or if not, kids go from cabin to cabin, seeing who wants to play.

But in the "real world," there is no longer a critical mass of friends to be found if you go to a local park. So no one goes. So there's no critical mass....

Nor does one kid knock on a neighbor's door to say, "Let's go play some hoops." Time is scheduled; activities are supervised. Kids pedaling off on an aimless summer bike ride are as rare as eagles. And sort of similar.

The eagle is the symbol of America — proud, independent. Not many eagles spend their adolescence stuck in a nest, protected from flying because it's just too dangerous. Gosh, they might fly into a tree, meet up with a wolf, get tired, need a snack, break a wing... None of those worries keeps parent birds from letting their fledglings fly. So off they go.

Most kids don't. They are watched and worried over. Kicking around on an aimless August day is almost unheard of and usually not allowed. That's why the kids are so happy when they come to the bungalow colony. They find something they instinctively realize they have been missing.


They take to it like a bird to the sky.

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