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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

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Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

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April 8, 2014

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April 2, 2014

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Jewish World Review May 7, 2007 / 19 Iyar, 5767

Stand up for times she stood up for you

By Mitch Albom

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | I am taller than my mother. I can't remember when I wasn't. It's like trying, as a grown man, to ride your first tricycle. It feels like I always have been this big.

A few weeks ago, I walked my taller frame alongside my mother — and my father, whose height I also have exceeded — onto a podium before a small crowd in a Borders bookstore. We were there because I had written a novel called "For One More Day" about a son who gets one day back with his mother years after she has died. Borders thought it would be interesting to bring the author and his actual mother together for some questions.

I had never done anything like this. Neither had she. We come from a family where the stories fly at the dinner table, year after year, often the same ones — but we don't share them with strangers.

Now here we were on a podium.

It was awkward at first. Some short answers. Nervous laughter.

And then a theme came up, from the book, about "times my mother stood up for me."

And my mother grew taller.

She spoke about the time when I was a boy that a librarian refused to let me check out a book because, she claimed, "it's too hard for you." When my mother heard this, she marched me back to the library, yelled at the librarian — "Never tell a child something is too hard for him!" — and demanded the book, which she shoved in my arms.

She spoke about the time when I was even younger, and a kindergarten teacher asked the students, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" And I said, "A trashman." And rather than be embarrassed before the other mothers, or suggest another profession, my mother simply replied, "As long as you're the best trashman you can be."

As she spoke, my mind tumbled into other moments like that, when my mother stood up for me. A time, in first grade, when I accidentally broke a musical wooden block — remember those? — and was convinced the teacher would have my hide, and how my mother stayed up for hours assuring me we wouldn't have to move away.

A time when I developed a strange swelling on my neck, and when the doctor removed a towel we'd put around it, his eyes bulged. My mother stayed calm and kept me away from a mirror, so I wouldn't be afraid.

A time when a bunch of fifth-grade friends were having a "make-out" party and I didn't go, then felt embarrassed that I didn't. She assured me it was the right thing to do, that I wouldn't become a social pariah.

A time when, years later, my father lost his job, and she — and he — insisted I stay in college, incurring cost, instead of coming home to contribute money to the household.

I bring all this up because next Sunday is Mother's Day. I could have written this column then, but it would be too late for what I'm about to suggest.

Make a list — in your head or on paper — of the times your mother stood up for you in your life. Come up with one for each day this week. And then, if that list moves you and your mother is still around, thank her next Sunday for each of those times.

I know it sounds corny. But it beats a box of chocolates. And I can speak from some experience. The best moment I've had as a writer came when I was able to give this latest book to my mother, while she is still here on Earth, and say, "Read this. There are some things in it I should have said long ago."

Her reaction — her smile, her proud eyes, her headshake in disbelief — made me wish I had done it sooner.

My mother has white hair now and wears big glasses, and I joke with her that she is getting smaller every day. But when we walked off that podium, I discovered something — something you may, in considering your memories, discover for yourself. No matter how large your body grows, you never really stand taller than your mother. And you never stop looking up to her.

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