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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

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Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 4, 2014

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review April 8, 2007 / 20 Nissan, 5767

What does it mean when we are more fascinated with criminals' lives than our own?

By Mitch Albom

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The word was "hoodlum" or, depending on when you grew up, "mobster" or "gangster" or "crook." It was uttered in anger by your mother ("Don't talk like a gangster") or your father ("Do that again and I'll smack you, you little hoodlum").

It was never a term of endearment.

And never something to aspire to.

That has changed. And while I can't prove it, I'm pretty sure it started 35 years ago, when a movie called "The Godfather" was released. Suddenly, the bad guys were the good guys. The lowlifes led the high life. The dark and violent was the cool and interesting.

And the American family — once defined by two kids, two cars and a house in the suburbs — was recast as a dysfunctional brood with large weddings, lavish spending, violent tendencies and a blind loyalty epitomized by Al Pacino as Michael Corleone, who tells his brother, Fredo, "Don't ever take sides against the family again."

And then has Fredo killed.

The American love affair with mobsters grew from there, meandering through "Goodfellas," "Casino," "Donnie Brasco," "Scarface," "A Bronx Tale," "Analyze This," two more "Godfather" movies.

And it culminated with "The Sopranos," a TV show that, for the last eight years, brought the mob fantasy of family into the very place where real families gather — the living room.

"The Sopranos" starts its final run this evening. Based on the breathless prose from most TV critics, you'd have thought the table was being reset for the Last Supper.

USA Today said "sheer genius abounds here." The Boston Globe cited "a depth and brilliance unequaled on TV."

I watch the show. I appreciate its craft. But I always felt its most critical element is being broadcast on HBO. If you held the Sopranos to network TV standards — i.e. no cursing, limited violence, commercial breaks — it would quickly lose its glitter and many of its cheerleaders.

Still, as the buildup for these final episodes reaches religious proportions, I wonder what it means when we are more fascinated with criminals' lives than our own.

Some claim it's because Tony and Carmela Soprano are just like us; they grapple with marital problems, rebellious children.

This is nonsense. They are not like us, because — in addition to getting great dialogue and wonderful lighting — lurking behind them are murders, drug deals, strippers and people who get whacked with baseball bats. Saying "Yeah, but take away that stuff and they're just like us" is a like saying shave a lion, stand him on his hind legs and he could pass for a gym teacher.

No, what fascinates many Americans is that the Sopranos seem more interesting than us. They argue over what's for dinner, but there's a gun in the drawer and a mistress on the phone. They go to work, but the "office" is a place where strippers dance on poles.

Their families seem fascinating, as did the Corleone clan in the "Godfather" saga. Mafia men have become the new American cowboys, admired for the way they go out and take what they want, how they tame the world and make it their own.

The truth is less romantic. The country really does have mobsters and Mafia. They're not as witty as the Sopranos. They're not as fascinating. They don't kiss their psychiatrists. Most cops will tell you they're pretty standard-issue punks.

We might remember that as we say farewell to Tony and his crew. Yes, there always have been gangster wanna-bes — from haircuts and silk suits in the 1930s to suburban rappers spewing junk in 2007. But that was usually because they envied the stuff — money, power, sex.

When so many of us revere the "family" story of the mob, it's something different. Remember, the love affair that began with "The Godfather" and continues on HBO tonight overlooks one small but important detail:

Given who they are and what they've done, almost everyone on "The Sopranos," if they stepped out of the TV set and into the real world, would be in the same place.


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