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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

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Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

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Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

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April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

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April 4, 2014

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April 2, 2014

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Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review April 21, 2005 / 12 Nissan, 5765

A Nation of ‘Fourth Sons’

By Jonathan Tobin

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How do you educate Jews who don't even know how to ask a question?

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | I've spent a lot of time around my house lately playing seder.

With the aid of some very neat toys, my daughter Moriah, and my wife and I have been practicing for the big night when we will sit and tell the story of the Exodus.

This involves a lot of singing of "Dayenu," playing with the toys that represent the 10 plagues, hiding and finding the afikoman, rehearsing the recitation of the preface to the four questions in Hebrew and English, a lot of mock pouring of grape juice and the recitation of blessings, some of which are already familiar to her from Friday nights.

For my soon-to-be 4-year-old, it's an entertaining game that dovetails nicely with the barrage of Passover books we've been reading to her. But for us, the fun and games have a serious purpose: We're trying to turn a little girl into a Jew who not only takes her heritage and faith seriously, but who will ultimately draw the right conclusions from all of this, and make Jewish values and identity the keystones to decisions she'll make about her life.

Living in a secular world where we are a tiny minority swimming in a sea of non-Jewish popular culture, it takes a nonstop conscious effort to ensure that Moriah knows who she is and what that means.

The demographic facts of life in this country tell us that not only are Jews a shrinking, aging population, but one whose children are often not receiving the sort of instruction that would enable them to make informed Jewish choices.

In Philadelphia, the news is worse than in most places. A smaller percentage of children here attend Jewish day schools — the best possible educational venue for combining intensive Jewish knowledge with a superior secular education — than the national average. More than 80 percent of our kids are instead getting their Jewish education at part-time congregational schools. And of these, the overwhelming majority are not continuing their Jewish education after their Bar or Bat Mitzvah.

That means that just at the moment their identities are being formed, their exposure to Jewish learning ends. This is a recipe for disaster.

And that's what we've reaped as American baby-boomers have come to maturity as perhaps the most accomplished generation in Jewish history in terms of secular knowledge, while simultaneously achieving the distinction of being the most Jewishly illiterate. We've earned that title with growing rates of disaffiliation and dropping rates of concern for Israel, Jewish observance and donating to Jewish philanthropies.

American Jews have become a collection of fourth sons, the character in the Passover narrative who is not even able to ask a question about the holiday. Many of us are as clueless as the slaves of Egypt about what it means to be a Jew. It took Moses — the greatest of teachers and prophets — to teach those slaves the meaning of freedom.

But we must teach ourselves again to choose to be Jews.

One answer is clearly to try and make the synagogue Hebrew schools better since the reason why so many young Jews are uninterested in learning more is that their initial experience was so unsatisfactory.

To that end, programs are being put in place to try and raise the standards for teaching in these schools and to give them more resources and better programs.

If we accept, as unfortunately we must, that many Jewish parents will not send their child to a day school no matter what the cost, then we must do something to transform afternoon Hebrew schools from being a symbol of Jewish communal failure into beacons of excellence.

But is that a panacea for all that ails American Jewry?

Clearly not. Day schools remain our best investment in Jewish continuity, and making them more affordable for the middle-class must also receive priority funding and attention.

Jewish camps and trips to Israel are other vital tools in this battle that are also battling for scarce funds. But unfortunately, the process of changing communal policy to give education the greatest share of our resources is far from over.

Yet even the best of schools or camps cannot make up for a lack of interest in the home and on the part of parents, many of whom are themselves Jewishly ignorant. If children are merely dropped off at these schools with no follow-up by their families, then the quality of the school will, in the long run, won't matter much.

As it so happens, a few nights ago, at bedtime during my reading of a Passover book, my daughter interrupted me to say that she now wanted to do something. Inspired by the story, she said she wanted to go to Israel to see the Burning Bush and meet Moses. But that wasn't all! We also needed to go with Moses to see Pharaoh and take him to see the bush, and that maybe then he wouldn't be so mean to the Jewish slaves.

While her grasp of the timeline of Jewish history will improve in the years to come, I don't think she'll do better in getting at the essence of Jewish values, even if I fear she is a trifle optimistic about unhardening the hearts of the wicked.

Let's hope the rest of her generation will do as well in the future.

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