In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 31, 2014 / 29 Adar II, 5774

Thoughts in Storage

By Lenore Skenazy

JewishWorldReview.com | America loves its stuff. In fact, it loves its stuff so much it spends $24 billion a year keeping it tucked away in mini-storage, or, as I like to call it, burial-by-the-month.

There's nothing evil about holding on to junk we may not visit even for years on end, but there is something odd. Why can't we let go of things that we clearly don't care about holding, touching, kissing, using, seeing or, often enough, even remembering?

Because storage is not about what we have. It's about who we are.

"It represents what our lives could be," says Kathryn Nulf, a Boston health coach who likes to ponder storage as part of a person's whole gestalt. "I think it's even a little fantasy, like a double life." For instance, when we hang on to those jeans from 1998 when we were nearly microscopic, it's a way of telling ourselves that those days — and toothpick thighs — aren't gone forever.

Neither are those dreams of a more gracious life. Professional organizing consultant Donna David, president of the New York-based company that bears her name, was working with a woman recently who could not part with her china service. "I said, 'You don't even eat at home! You never cook!'" says David. "She said, 'Maybe one day I might begin.'"

So it seems that paying a monthly storage bill is not that different from buying lottery tickets. It's a way to hold on to that dream of someday being more beautiful, accomplished or fulfilled. More surprising is that keeping hope alive may even make sense from an efficiency standpoint, says Jim Stone, a productivity software developer.

"Say you've been meaning to learn Spanish for years — or Russian or whatever," Stone says. "Well, maybe that's not going to be one of the things you end up doing in your life. But all those aspirations can weigh on you and feel like obligations."

Tuck those ideas into the equivalent of storage at the back of your brain — or tuck them truly into storage, in the form of unopened Russian textbooks shoved into a bin — and you no longer have to keep thinking about them. Says Stone, "It just frees you up."

And when storage isn't busy freeing you from the burdens of your self-expectations, it can free you from the guilt of not feeling like a good enough person. For instance: Knowing that you still have Grandma's wedding dress in the dim reaches of your mini-storage means you have done your job as a grandchild and not forgotten her. Alive or dead, she clearly still matters to you, as evidenced by the fact you didn't toss her dress into the dump. The dress is your connection and salve.

Which is not to say storage is always fraught with huge emotional and psychological significance. John Egan, editor-in-chief of SpareFoot, an online marketplace for self-storage, says the big reason most folks rent space is that they are in transition and need a way station for their stuff. The three big D's demand an off-site closet: divorce, death and dislocation — that is, moving homes.

For folks dealing with those issues, storage is a way to deal with life's loops. For the rest of us, it's a way to deal with love, loss, guilt, delusion and those itty-bitty jeans that look like maybe they fit Kate Moss in seventh grade.

That's reason enough to pay for another month.

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