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Jewish World Review Oct. 7, 2005 /4 Elul, 5766

Moses and the lobster

By Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski

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True happiness can come only from growth

“I am 120 years old today; I can no longer go out and come in, for G-d has said to me, 'You shall not cross this Jordan'.”

                        —   Deut. 31:2

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | In "Living Each Week" I cited the comment of the Rebbe of Gur who explained that Moses lived for only one purpose: To fulfill the Divine mitzvos (religious duties) and to elevate himself spiritually. At this point in his life, he had maximized the spirituality he could attain. There was only one way that he could still grow spiritually, and that was by the performance of the mitzvos that are applicable only in the Holy Land and that he could not perform elsewhere.

Moses pleaded to be allowed to enter the Holy Land so that he could do these mitzvos. When his pleas were turned down and he saw that there was no way he could further grow spiritually anymore, he accepted death. For Moses, a life that was without spiritual growth was not worth living.

Moses made it very clear that simchah (joy) was an essential component of the Divine service. He warned the Israelites of the dire consequences that would befall the person, ''Because you did not serve G-d with joy'' (Deuteronomy 28:47).

Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch (1808-1888) points out that the word same'ach (happy) is related to and perhaps derived from the same source as tzome'ach (growth). True happiness can come only from growth, especially spiritual growth. A life devoid of spiritual growth is devoid of simchah.

There is an important message in the relationship of Someach to tzomeach. Elsewhere I have cited the Talmud that we should learn some things from observation of nature (Eruvin 100b). We might learn from nature by observing how lobsters grow.

Lobsters are confined within a rigid shell. As the lobster grows, the shell becomes too confining and oppressive. It then sheds its shell and grows a more spacious one. As the lobster continues to grow, each new shell eventually becomes oppressive, leading to the formation of a larger one. The stimulus that enables the lobster to grow is the discomfort it feels when its shell becomes oppressive. If the lobster would not feel discomfort, it would remain forever tiny.

Growth is often accompanied by discomfort. ''For with much wisdom comes much suffering'' (Ecclesiastes 1:18). Yet, tzome'ach is related to same'ach. Hence, there can be simchah even when one experiences discomfort. This is why we find that our great tzaddikim (the truly righteous) welcomed suffering. The spiritual growth that was stimulated by the discomfort more than compensated for the suffering.

We live in an era where scientific advances have given us unprecedented comfort in living. Western civilization has become essentially hedonistic. Whereas it is perfectly normal to seek relief from pain, we are at risk of rejecting all types of discomfort, including those that are the stimuli for spiritual growth. If we eschew spiritual growth because of the discomfort that may accompany it, we may also be lessening the amount of true simchah that we can achieve.

On the day of his death, Vayeilech Moshe, Moses progressed. Moses had one last opportunity for growth, to fulfill the mitzvah of giving reproof and blessing.

Moshe Rabbeinu, Moses our teacher. He taught us and continues to teach us that growing and fulfilling oneself is the source of true simchah.

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Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. is a psychiatrist and ordained rabbi. He is the founder of the Gateway Rehabilitation Center in Pittsburgh, a leading center for addiction treatment. An Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, he is a prolific author, with some 30 books to his credit, including, "Twerski on Chumash" (Bible), from which this was excerpted (Sales of this book help fund JWR). Comment by clicking here.

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