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August 28, 2008

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August 27, 2008

Rabbi Zecharya Greenwald: Removing the perfectionist's mask

The Kosher Gourmet by Emily Nunn: Summer harvest linguine

JWisdom:: The Missing Link in Spiritual Life by Rabbi David Aaron

August 26, 2008

Yaffa Ganz: Grandma gets lessons in staying cool

Frank J. Gaffney, Jr.: The Dems' 'soft' jihadist

JWisdom:: Today: Holocaust in the Perspective of Faith by Rabbi Nosson Scherman: Plague of indifference

August 25, 2008

The Jewish Ethicist by Rabbi Dr. Asher Meir: Q: A friend is bearing a silly grudge from a supposed wrong. What recourse do I have?

Daniel Pipes: Barack Obama through Muslim Eyes

JWisdom:: The knowledge you need to overcome your insecurities by Malka Schulman

August 22, 2008

Rabbi Berel Wein: Life's essential ingredient

Caroline B. Glick: Dominos anyone?

JWisdom:: Actually, Do Sweat the Small Stuff! by Rabbi Sroy Levitansky

August 21, 2008

Today in Biblical History by Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Popularization of Kabbalah: 20 Menachem-Av 1558 CE

Jonathan Rosenblum: Lessons from the Beyond

JWisdom: : The Olympian within is rooting for you -- yes, you! –- to go for the gold

August 20, 2008

Jonathan Tobin: Misleading Platform Platitudes

The Kosher Gourmet by Linda Gassenheimer: Chicken Salad with Asian Dressing

JWisdom: The Holocaust in the Perspective of Faith: America's Defense of the Jews --- Until WWII by Rabbi Nosson Scherman

August 19, 2008

Dennis Prager: If the Almighty doesn't exist

Frank J. Gaffney, Jr.: Obama's Islamist problem has nothing to do with his upbringing

JWisdom: Think your life is messed up? by Rabbi David Aaron

August 18, 2008

The Jewish Ethicist by Rabbi Dr. Asher Meir: Business with Friends

Diana West: Roars About Russia, Bare Whispers About Islam

JWisdom: Relationship agony: The real cause by Malka Schulman

August 15, 2008

Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski: To love the Divine

Caroline B. Glick: Georgia, Israel, and the nature of man

JWisdom: The Truly Righteous Don't Demand Entitlements by Rabbi Sroy Levitansky

August 14, 2008

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Confessions of broken spirit

Libby Lazewnik: The Numbers Game

JWisdom: Six Questions You'll Be Asked in Heaven? - Uh - Let's Just Take One for Now! by Gavriel Aryeh Sanders

August 13, 2008

Jonathan Tobin: Georgia should be on their minds

The Kosher Gourmet by Linda Gassenheimer: Go Greek: Pair flavorful lamb kebabs with a hearty salad

JWisdom: Human hybrids aren't science fiction by Rabbi David Aaron

August 12, 2008

Rabbi Avi Shafran: Bless us

Daniel Pipes: The West's Islamist Infiltrators

JWisdom: From Sadness to Gladness: The Route from Tisha b'Av to Rosh Hashana by Rabbi Mordechai Becher

August 11, 2008

The Jewish Ethicist by Rabbi Dr. Asher Meir: A Jewish view on fair pricing

Caroline B. Glick: Ignoring failure in Gaza

JWisdom: 'Communication' Is Not The Answer! by Malka Schulman

August 7, 2008

Rabbi David Gutterman: A Continuing Story With a Sustaining Goal

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JWisdom: Yes, we are still in exile by Rabbi Sroy Levitansky

August 6, 2008

David Ashenfelter: Government made military engineer's life a living hell because of his faith, Defense Department report documents

Jonathan Tobin: Speak the Truth; Defeat the Lies

JWisdom: Jewish Spirituality: Fusion or Confusion? by Rabbi David Aaron

August 5, 2008

Chris Leppek: Church/state wall beginning to crumble?

Paul Greenberg: Exit Olmert (no encore, please)

JWisdom: Serenity: Make the commitment by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin (Read by Gavriel Sanders)

August 4, 2008

The Jewish Ethicist by Rabbi Dr. Asher Meir: Am I taking advantage of another's psychological quirk?

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JWisdom: The Holocaust in the Perspective of Faith: Edward R. Morrow visits the ‘living dead’ by Rabbi Nosson Scherman

August 1, 2008

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July 31, 2008

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July 30, 2008

Jonathan Tobin: Does Israel need 'tough love'?

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July 29, 2008

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July 28, 2008

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Jewish World Review August 6, 2004 / 19 Menachem-Av, 5764

You are what you eat — or should be

By Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski


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A traditional Jewish Sabbath food teaches a profound lesson about happiness


“This shall be the reward when you hearken to these ordinances and keep and do them, that G-d will safeguard for you the covenant and the kindness that He swore to your forefathers.”

                        —   Deut. 7:12


http://www.jewishworldreview.com | T he Midrash states that wherever the Torah (Bible) uses the word vehaya, ''It shall be,'' it refers to simchah, a joyful occurrence. On the other hand, when the Torah says vayehi beyimay, ''It was in the days,'' it refers to an unhappy theme.


It is a fact.


Happy people are future-oriented. Sad people are past-oriented.




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A tradition in many families is to serve ''farfel'' at the Friday night meal. My mother referred to this as ''Baal Shem Tov's tzimmes.'' The significance of this dish is a play on words.


In Yiddish, farfallen means ''bygone'' and ''it is over and done with, irretrievable.'' When my mother served the farfel, she would say, ''Whatever occurred until now is farfallen.''


Friday night marks the close of the previous workweek, with all its anguish and disappointments. Shabbes, the Jewish Sabbath, is a day of meditation and renewal. It is not merely a day of rest to ''recharge one's batteries'' for the next workweek. Rather, it is a day where Torah (Bible) study, prayer, family unity and introspection should elevate one spiritually, so that the week that follows can be one of spiritual advancement.


Just as it is difficult to walk and take great strides with a heavy burden on one's back, so it is difficult to advance spiritually carrying a heavy burden of the past. True, we may have made mistakes. We should learn from these to not repeat them and to avoid the things that are conducive to errant behavior.


Wherever possible, we should make amends for any harm we may have caused. These are the components of teshuvah, and Torah literature states that Shabbes is particularly propitious for repentance. But once we have properly repented, we should let go of the past and not allow it to hinder us in the future.


That is why we eat the symbolic farfel on Friday night. ''Let go of the past. It is farfallen.''


I once saw a cartoon where one character tells the other that one should not worry about the future but think only of today. The response was, ''No, that would be giving up. I still want to make yesterday better.'' Inasmuch as one cannot make yesterday better, why try? Correct the mistakes, resolve not to repeat them, and let that be the end of it.


''It shall be'' is looking to what we can accomplish in the future. That indeed is simchah, joy.

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Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. is a psychiatrist and ordained rabbi. He is the founder of the Gateway Rehabilitation Center in Pittsburgh, a leading center for addiction treatment. An Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, he is a prolific author, with some 30 books to his credit, including, "Twerski on Chumash" (Bible), from which this was excerpted (Sales of this book help fund JWR). Comment by clicking here.

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