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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review Feb. 2, 2007 / 14 Shevat, 5767

Love thyself!

By Rabbi David Aaron

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Secrets to your ultimate and everlasting net worth

“Just as a person must believe in G-d, so too, he must afterwards believe in Himself. That is to say, that G-d is involved with him and he is not a waste — that he is here today and gone tomorrow….

“Rather one must believe that his soul is from the Source of Life, may His name be blessed and that G-d gets pleasure - taanug— in him and is — mishtashaya — playfully involved with him when he does His will.

“And this is the meaning of the verse "and they believed in G-d and Moses His servant" (Exodus 15). [The soul of] Moses consisted of the 600,000 souls of the Jewish people of that generation —- and they believed that G-d desired them - wants and receives pleasure from the good within them.”

                       — Rabbi Tzadok Hacohen: Tzidkas HaTzadick 154

I heard an interview with a famous singer. The interviewer asked her, "What are your feelings about yourself?"

She said, "I've always had low self-esteem."

She went on to explain, "Well, most people in this industry have low self-esteem. Why else would you and me be out here on stage, in the spotlight, looking for acknowledgment?"

Torah teaches that receiving acknowledgement from a bunch of people or having your name in lights does not access your inner being and true self worth. Despite the fact that this singer is successful, accomplished, beautiful, talented, and, I am sure, a very confident performer, she still suffers low self-esteem.

Accomplishments might give her fame and confidence, but they did not lead her to true belief in her self.

Self-esteem does not have to be acted out vis-à-vis the outside world. You don't need to act upon something or someone else to help you feel worthwhile and valuable. You don't need to tell somebody else, and you don't need somebody else to tell you, that you are valuable. If you need somebody else to tell you this, then you are not tapping the source of true and lasting self -worth. A hermit, attuned to his soul connection to G-d, may be living a more empowered life than a king who may reign supreme but neglects nurturing his relationship to G-d. Ultimately, self-worth is something you have to come to know from inside yourself by virtue of your internal and eternal connection to G-d. Of course what we do outside can help us access and affirm this realization inside. But the truth of sacred self love lies within.

There is a big difference between looking good and feeling good about ourselves. Looking good is acted out vis-à-vis the outside world. It sounds something like this: "I am technologically savvy, I built a successful business, people acknowledge me, I am honored at dinners, etc.." True, these people have an honorable dignified existence, but they do not necessarily find true inner value. Success in the outside world is how you achieve confidence and self worth is rooted in the conquest of your inner world. Your inner worth comes from communing with G-d — the Master Self, from plugging into the Ultimate I. Self-worth is an inner power and security derived from feeling your self anchored in something, or to be more correct Someone, stable and unchanging.


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We experience self-worth as a catharsis, a truth that is our greatness unleashed from within. We do not get self-esteem from an outside source rather we release it from within by tapping into the inner Ultimate Source of all. Self-worth comes from digging deep inside of ourselves until we find the gold within, or more specifically G-d within. Therefore, self- worth is encountered in the privacy of one's own in-depth soul experience.

Having a great net worth in assets doesn't necessarily make us feel that we have worth. Having power and control of the world outside of us doesn't help us feel the true divine essence and unconditional value of our soul.

A confident person may have mastery over his environment. A person with great self-worth, on the other hand, has mastery over himself. What does it take to have self-control? The answer is being in touch with our souls. To lead a disciplined life means that you are in the driver's seat, you have a grip on yourself and you are working from a soulful place within. Sometimes we talk from our lips, without thinking. Sometimes we talk from our heads, with much thought but little or no emotion. Sometimes we talk from the heart, with more emotion than intellect. And sometimes we talk from our soul, from a place where our heart and mind come together to fully express who we really are; from a place where we are connected to the Master Self and serve to express G-d's wisdom, love, compassion, beauty and truth. When we operate from that soulful place, we are living a disciplined G-d centered life.

Sometime ago I read a book called I'm O.K., You're O.K. After I read it, I felt O.K. but not great. Maybe I misunderstood the book.

G-d does not want you to think you are just O.K. He wants you to know that you are great. His message is "I'm Great and You're Great" — because you are a part of me. So, please do yourself a favor and act accordingly — Love Thyself!!!!

               — For more on this topic, please see: Endless Light: The Ancient Path of Kabbalah

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JWR contributor Rabbi David Aaron is the founder and dean of Isralight, an international organization with programming in Israel, New York South Florida, Philadelphia, Los Angeles and Toronto. He has taught and inspired thousands of Jews who are seeking meaning in their lives and a positive connection to their Jewish roots.

He is the author of the newly released, The Secret Life of G-d, and Endless Light: The Ancient Path of Kabbalah to Love, Spiritual Growth and Personal Power , Seeing G-d and Love is my religion. (Click on links to purchase books. Sales help fund JWR.) He lives in the old City of Jerusalem with his wife and their seven children.

© 2007, Rabbi David Aaron