Jewish World Review Sept. 11, 2000 / 10 Elul, 5760
Must I pay for my gifted child's college tuition?
DEAR BRUCE: My daughter is gifted. She is very bright and has been an honor student all the
way through school. Now that she is one year from graduating from high school, she is in the process of picking a college. The problem is that she has her heart set on an Ivy League school. One year's tuition would exhaust my entire life savings. I know I can take the money out of my retirement plan for education, and I want the best for my daughter, whom I raised by myself, but is it reasonable to expect me to sacrifice any possibility of a decent retirement in this effort? Maybe it's a moral question, but I'm not sure what to do, and it's really getting me down. -- R.E., via e-mail
DEAR R.E.: In my opinion, it is absolute insanity for parents to impoverish themselves for a kid's college education. If the youngster wants to go to a particular school badly enough, she'll find a way. I understand that your daughter has a good mind; there are many, many scholarships that she can apply for. You might contact the loan officers at the college now and find out what you can do to obtain financing, grants, etc.
It's my view that a parents have a responsibility to give their kids good moral values and a solid foundation of ethics. In no way do you owe your youngster a college education. If she can't go to the Ivy League school, that may be unfortunate, but there are certainly many institutions which are a whole lot less expensive.
I would never suggest to you or anyone that you should deplete your retirement money so that your youngster can have an easy ride in college. There are hundreds of thousands of people who have put themselves through school, and there is no reason why your daughter can't be added to that list.
DEAR BRUCE: After 13 years, I have changed employers. For 12 of those 13 years I contributed to my 401(k), and there is a substantial amount of money there. Now I'm faced with a decision about whether I should take it out and pay some bills, roll it over into an IRA or a Roth IRA, or leave it where it is. I am very happy with its performance up until now. I am 32 years old, and my new job promises to pay better -- and of course in a short time I will be eligible to contribute to the retirement plan here as well. -- C.D., via e-mail
DEAR C.D.: If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Since it is doing well, why not just leave it where it is as long as you have that option? Otherwise, you could roll it over into a traditional IRA, and you do have an option of rolling it into a Roth -- but then you would have to pay the taxes that are due, which could be substantial. It may very well kick you into a higher tax bracket.
There is yet another possibility -- that you could transfer into a Roth that portion of the money which will not put you into a higher tax bracket. This of course is dependent on your being in one of the lower brackets. If you are earning a great deal of money, then the overwhelming likelihood is that you would be better advised to leave it where it is or in the traditional IRA. If you are more comfortable in calling your own shots, by all means move it over. You realize, too, that there is nothing to prevent you from investing the money in that self-directed IRA in exactly that same fashion as it is being invested by your 401(k) custodian now. You've got lots of options, but the one that you should never consider is taking the money out to pay bills. You will pay huge penalties in real dollars now, taxes now, but, most important, you give up a shelter for the next 30 years. The value of that is incalculable.
DEAR BRUCE: Our piece of property, about 10 acres, was cut out of a very large farm. The property itself is technically landlocked. However, we have an easement across the property in the front out to the road that is ours in perpetuity and can be passed along to any future owners. That has worked out very well until recently, when the property in front was sold. The guy who bought the house says that land is his, and he can do as he wants with it, including blocking it off. If it's blocked off, we have no way to reach our
home. What shall we do? -- A.A., via e-mail
DEAR A.A.: Immediately contact your attorney, and have him advise this miscreant of your rights. You might even send him a copy of the description of the easement. While there may be restrictions on you such as paving, the easement clearly allows you ingress and egress. You may as well cut this right off at the pass. What he thinks is now a liberty will next become a right in his mind. Step on him
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