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April 21, 2014

Andrew Silow-Carroll: Passoverkill? Suggestions to make next year's seders even more culturally sensitive

Sara Israelsen Hartley: Seeking the Divine: An ancient connection in a new context

Christine M. Flowers: Priest's execution in Syria should be call to action

Courtnie Erickson: How to help kids accept the poor decisions of others

Lizette Borreli: A Glass Of Milk A Day Keeps Knee Arthritis At Bay

Lizette Borreli: 5 Health Conditions Your Breath Knows Before You Do

The Kosher Gourmet by Betty Rosbottom Coconut Walnut Bars' golden brown morsels are a beautifully balanced delectable delight

April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Oct. 15, 2010 / 7 Mar-Cheshvan, 5771

Good for the cop who ‘arrested’ stepdaughter's, ahem, ‘bed buddy’

By Betsy Hart



http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Go, Dad!

That was my response to national news reports that a San Jose, Calif., police officer staged a false arrest of a 15-year-old boy for having consensual sex with the man's 14-year-old stepdaughter.

Yes, Dad did it in full police regalia, and clearly scared the heck out of the boy, as a smart-phone video of the five-minute "arrest" shows.

The officer was put on administrative leave pending an investigation. The boy's parents who witnessed the "arrest" are furious at the dad and have hired a lawyer. The boy, who later had misdemeanor charges brought against him related to underage sex, as did the daughter, reportedly also wants to see the officer himself behind bars.

I'll leave all that for the authorities to sort out.

But back to the stepfather. I love where this guy is coming from.

Now I can offer endless caveats here that, yes, the officer was abusing his authority, he would have been better served "policing" his stepdaughter to begin with, and on it goes.

However, if more daughters had fathers -- much less stepfathers -- like this, how much better off young women -- and, for that matter, young men -- would be.

For some reason I can't quite fathom, it drives certain people crazy when I point out that girls do not typically have anywhere near the voracious sexual appetites that boys do. But, duh, I think it's safe to say that a 14-year-old girl's romantic fantasies revolve around being loved and adored and, well, romanced -- not giving oral sex or experiencing full sexual intercourse.

Yet, strangely, our culture today insists that girls be as sexually aggressive as boys. And, in fact, many parents of high-school and even junior-high boys will tell you that girls are, increasingly, socially and even sexually aggressive toward their sons. But I'm convinced that this isn't what girls want at all. So it should be no surprise that college women routinely bemoan to researchers and sociologists the loss of dating and romance on campus, and that it's been replaced with a demeaning, sexual-hookup culture.

Meanwhile, most of our discussions about sex and younger teens revolve around "of course they are going to do it" and ignore the fact that girls and boys are built so differently. And that most girls are not as eager to have sex as most boys, so why aren't we better protecting girls from what they typically don't want anyway?

Apparently this girl told her stepfather that she had had sex with the boy. Isn't it quite possible she wanted to be protected by hiding behind her stepfather?

It's a great lesson for any boy to see a man protecting a woman. And it's a great lesson for a girl to know that that's what she should expect from a good man.

In any event, it shouldn't take a badge and a gun for a father to protect a daughter. Treating her well, loving her and talking to her over time about how a boy should respect her and how she should respect herself will probably offer the best protection against the sexual advances of a young man. (What fathers should be teaching their sons about respecting a woman would make a full column itself.)

The fact that so many families today aren't being protected by a husband and father is a tragedy, true enough. But when a dad is in the home, letting even the best of young men know that he is willing to appropriately step in and protect his daughter as needed? Priceless.

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