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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Sept. 6, 2011 / 7 Elul, 5771

Who needs men, anyway?

By Betsy Hart



http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Really, guys? Really?

That's what I found myself saying in response to two books just out: "Man Down: Proof Beyond a Reasonable Doubt that Women are Better Cops, Drivers, Gamblers, Spies, World Leaders, Beer Tasters, Hedge Fund Managers, and Just About Everything Else" by Dan Abrams; and "Confessions of a Recovering Stupid Male: Creating Loving Relationships that Will Last a Lifetime" by Mike Love.

Abrams is the chief legal news analyst for NBC. And it could be that this fairly lighthearted book, featuring an emblem of high heels on the cover, is more about getting the never-married Abrams a girlfriend than anything else.

"Dan has never been married, so despite his admiration for women evidenced by this book that does not mean he necessarily knows how to talk to them," reads "About the Author." Maybe he can start a conversation with one of the chapter titles, like "Women are Better Spies."

Although entertaining, "Man Down" does not appear to be primarily tongue-in-cheek, but rather a genuine effort to back up in a provocative way his conclusion that after looking at the evidence in countless areas, he has "found the evidence of female superiority to be beyond compelling." He writes that "a truer truism" than the old cliche would be that "behind every great man there is probably an even greater woman -- and in most cases, she ought to be out in front."

Would that the book were just about getting girls.

"Stupid Male" goes even further.

Love says he has had to "continually exorcise 'my demons' from the socially approved male indoctrination that has been instilled in me since birth. ..." The long-married author, father and self-described counselor fills his tome with litanies against, for starters, the violence and aggressiveness of men. Of course, he doesn't mention that women are more likely to experience assault from a boyfriend or ex-husband, someone who has no stake in her well-being, than a husband living in the home who is more likely to turn his aggressive male tendencies to protecting her than hurting her.

Yep, sometimes those tough-guy qualities, rightly channeled, can come in handy. Like, let's see, in defending women and children, winning wars, taking down Osama bin Laden, checking out those mysterious bumps in the night -- those kinds of things.

But the actual content of the books are less the point than what their very existence says about our current strange cultural attraction to undermining men and traditional male qualities.

While Love's book is filled with tedious New Age cliches -- he has to work to be "in harmony" with his emotions -- Abrams' book is at least entertaining. Still, imagine another high-profile news correspondent of his level, of either gender, getting a reported six-figure advance (as the New York Post claimed Abrams received) to write a book titled "Countless Ways that Men are Better Than Women." Uh, let me think, let me think -- not a chance!

I've written before about what I call our prevailing "man bad/woman good" view of the world. One in which men are increasingly, well, screw-ups. No surprise, I just saw a new commercial where Dad is being watched by the kids as he mangles the setting up of a jungle gym. Cue the laughter at yet another bumbling father.

Look. I can find humor in just about anything, but the ongoing assault on manhood in our society isn't a joke. When men are often seen, at best, as irrelevant and, at worst, as useless idiots, who needs them? The answer, of course, is that a healthy culture and healthy families do.

In other words, what may be the disappearing man in our culture is nothing that women, or real men, should cheer.

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