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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 14, 2010 / 3 Menachem-Av, 5770

Case against wedlock makes a plea for it

By Betsy Hart



http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Some time after I became single again, I shared with a long-married friend my desire to remarry. She was surprised.

"But, you have what women get married for! Children, means and the status of having been married. Why do it again?"

Ever the skeptic -- and yes, with a wicked wit I might add -- even her comments weren't nearly as cynical as those in "I Don't: The Case Against Marriage," in Newsweek magazine recently:

"Once upon a time, marriage made sense. It was how women ensured their financial security, got the fathers of their children to stick around, and gained access to a host of legal rights. But 40 years after the feminist movement established our rights in the workplace, a generation after the divorce rate peaked, and a decade after 'Sex and the City' made singledom chic, marriage is -- from a legal and practical standpoint, anyway -- no longer necessary."

So argued Jessica Bennett and Jesse Ellison, (heterosexual) women in their late 20s and early 30s, in their provocative essay. These women at least had the sense to admit the possibility they are too young to know what they are talking about.

Good thing, too. Though marriage rates have plummeted, recent surveys show that some 80 percent of young adults still say they expect to marry someday, with 90 percent of those intending to stay married for life.

But the fact that such a high percentage of young people still say they want to, expect to, get married and stay married when they don't really "need" to might ironically be something of a positive sign for all of us. Apparently all the changed social mores in the world can't change that fundamental desire most of us have to marry.

So sure I want to marry again. I used to say after my divorce that I wasn't looking to fall passionately in love and go through all that nonsense, I just wanted to have been happily married for 10 years!

While the former sentiment has been overtaken by events, and the latter hasn't happened yet, I still believe it will. My skeptical friend can say what she wants, but she wouldn't trade places with me for a minute and she knows it.

So ironically I suppose I'm far less cynical than my younger never-married colleagues from Newsweek, who wrote "I Don't."

I don't think that Bennett and Ellison will agree with what they wrote in Newsweek 10 years from now. I'm not even sure they fully believe it today.

Yes, I'm still worried about the institution of marriage. But in an unexpected way, I'm more encouraged now because "The Case Against Marriage" actually helped make the case for it.

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