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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 22, 2010 / 8 Iyar 5770

Give sons a ‘porno pep talk’

By Betsy Hart



http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | My 13-year-old, Tori, casually mentioned that an acquaintance had balked at spending $5 on a lunch. She said, "Wow, $5 is nothing!"


Five dollars is "nothing" only when it's someone else's five dollars! We are raising a new generation of young people who have no idea how to value or manage money.


My kids do chores and I give each a small allowance. Somehow I get nickel and dimed (or rather 5- and 10-dollared) to pieces anyway. "Mom, can I have money for the movies?" "Mom, can I get that new Justin Bieber CD?" "Mom, can I buy lunch at school today?"


Sure, I say "no" as often as "yes." But it's still the case that sometimes there's nothing left for mom anyway.


I like the approach of a friend of mine. She and her husband asked their child to work out a monthly budget. Clothes, movies, lunch with her girlfriends or at school, haircuts and hair-care products, makeup, iTunes purchases, everything. Together, they figured out what was reasonable. At the beginning of the month, she receives that month's stipend in her bank account. She has a debit bank card to access the funds or get cash, but either way she can't spend more than is in there.

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Their child can use the money to splurge on a pair of jeans but be sorry when her friends are going to the movies and she can't. The budget is reasonable but not overly generous, so that she has an incentive to earn money where she can, too.


Yes, mom and dad will occasionally treat the family to dinner or a night out at the movies. And no, the child is not asked to cover her part of the mortgage! But wow, is she learning some great lessons.


That's what I'm determined to do for my kids, starting with the older two.


Tori actually is responsible with money and thoughtful about her purchases. But she really likes nice jeans. Older brother Peter is almost 16 and has very little interest in "stuff" of any kind. He's going to caddy this summer -- his first job -- and it will be interesting to see how earning money affects that view! Maybe he'll just invest his monthly stipend in Microsoft.


I've added a provision that the kids need to help support a charity of their choice, but how much is up to them.


My children seem excited about the idea. Frankly, I have a feeling they don't know what things actually cost. I'm waiting for the proposed monthly budgets to be turned in from each of them. I'll share what happens in a future column.


If I could just put myself on a more accountable budget plan, we might really get somewhere. I'm hoping my kids will inspire me. I'll share what happens there, too!

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