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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

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April 4, 2014

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review May 16, 2008 / 11 Iyar 5768

Interview with Confucius

By Paul Greenberg

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | It was definitely time to see the old man again. Things were starting to get to me. I found myself replying to the day's crank letters. I was even opening my irate e-mails, a sure sign things had gotten out of control. I needed a cup of hot tea and a long talk with a wise elder.

That's how I found myself once again in the obscure little Chinese restaurant where he hangs out these days. The aroma of won ton and orange-flavored beef greeted me as I opened the door, welcoming and soothing. The tea was already brewing, the steam rising like good sense above vain things.

It had been a long time, yet it was as if the master had been expecting me. He greeted me with the hint of a smile, neither obsequious nor haughty, but welcoming without showing it.

"Inscrutable as ever," I murmured, easing into the booth across from him.

"See how he operates, observe what path he follows, examine what he is satisfied with, and how can a man remain inscrutable, how can a man remain inscrutable?" (Book 2, Saying 10.)

"Easy enough for you to say," I replied, "sitting here removed from it all. But what about those of us out there peddling our opinions in the public prints who must put up with the slings and arrows of readers? Not to mention the condescension of life's winners and the anger of its losers, the envy of the poor and the indifference of the rich, the stupidity of clods and the charity of our betters, the jealousy of the untalented and, worst of all, the pity of the gifted. Intolerable."

"One does not worry about the fact that other people do not appreciate one. One worries about not appreciating other people." (Book 1, Saying 16.)

"But we can't all be sages, Master Kong. Some of us are just inky wretches. I don't ask a philosopher to empathize, but can't you sympathize?"

"Not to be resentful at others' failure to appreciate one — surely that is to be a true gentleman?" (Book 1, Saying 1.)

"The tea is delicious, master, and fortifying. Much like your words. But may I be so bold as to point out that we're talking about newspaper people here, not gentlemen. Anyway, how could you tell a gentleman these days even if you ran across one? Aren't they extinct?"

"The gentleman puts his sayings into action before adopting them as mottoes. The gentleman has universal sympathies and is not partisan. The small man is partisan and does not have universal sympathies." (Book 2, Sayings 13-14.)

"Yeah, well, a philosopher might say that, but the rest of us have got to operate in a two-party system. I notice you steer clear of politics. How come you never took part in government?"

"It is because I have not yet been tried out in office that I have developed accomplishments." (Book 9, Saying 7.)

"Is there any way to boil down your counsel into some simple principle that even a round-eyed barbarian might grasp?"

"If you do not want others to inflict something on you, you also should want to avoid inflicting it on others." (Book 5, Saying 12.)

"Good advice. It sounds familiar somehow. Like a golden rule. But I need something, well, more original. If I'm going to get a column out of this interview, I'll need something zingier, something with a clever twist to it."

"Clever words upset virtue. (Book 15, Saying 27.) What is the point of eloquence? Those who confront others with a ready tongue are often hated by them." (Book 5, Saying 5.)

"Yeah, so I've discovered, but the virtuous are often hated, too, especially those who aren't eloquent."

"I have never come across anyone who admires virtue as much as he admires sexual attraction." (Book 9, Saying 18.)

"How perceptive. We are sexual creatures, after all. Male and female He made us. But what about those of us who aren't so attractive, and risk criticism every day? We yearn for admiration instead."

"My disciple Hui is of no help to me. In my words there is nothing which he does not admire." (Book 11, Saying 4.)

"I suppose we do learn from our critics."

"One does not worry about the fact that other people do not appreciate one. One worries about not being worthy." (Book 14, Saying 30.)

"Thank you, Master Kong, and not just for the tea."

The master smiled a smile neither obsequious nor haughty, but bestowed with a certain guarded but clear beneficence. I bowed in farewell. And gratitude. The old man does put things in perspective. The food looked good in the Chinese place, but I passed it up. I already had my take-out.

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