In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Dec. 13, 2010 / 6 Teves, 5771

Nautical Worry Killers

By Alan Douglas

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Never ending analysis with a tinge of fear is worry. Too much planning can be bad, and when it is coupled with avoiding taking action, it is paralysis. Reviewing the situation before acting or in anticipation of a challenge is a good thing, when it helps. Before he was president, Dwight D. Eisenhower was a general. He led and managed the largest amphibious assault in history, D-Day. Eisenhower explained, "In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable." Developing a plan before the game is important. You have to decide when and how to plan in a positive way.

For some people planning is easily avoided. Comedian Ellen DeGeneres counsels, "Procrastination isn't the problem, it's the solution. So procrastinate now, don't put it off." If you don't enjoy procrastinating, I offer you my trio of Nautical Worry Killers to use in business and life.

When you see those oil tankers or big freighters at sea have you might have noticed the small horizontal lines at the stern (rear) of the ships. They are known as the Plimsoll Lines

, and they are our first Nautical Worry Killer. Named after a British merchant and reformer, Samuel Plimsoll, those stripes tell you how high or low the ship is riding in the water. Most of an iceberg may sit below the water, but a ship's "draft," the amount of the ship that extends below the water, varies based upon how heavily the craft is loaded. The more cargo, the more it sinks below the waves. And too much cargo can literally sink a vessel. The capacity of each one is crucial not only to avoid sinking, but also to know how deep into the water the ship is. A fully loaded ship can not go into shallow water while an empty ship can. A lot of us can learn something from Plimsoll Lines. How much capacity we each have, isn't just about attitude. A good positive attitude can work wonders. But miracles are not to be relied upon in the planning stage. When we consider embarking on quests, we need to evaluate the likelihood of arriving at the destination. Our skills, financial resources, time available, and other factors combined, total our capacity to carry loads. Each of us should have realistic Plimsoll Lines to evaluate what we are able to do. Planning is about getting ready to do it, not just agonizing about it. Take out a piece of paper and determining what your capacity, should be your first step. Stephen Covey says, "Begin with the end in mind." So before you start, see if you should expect to finish.

Our second Nautical Worry Killer addresses when you get that sinking feeling. No matter how great the plans, life gets in the way. When that happens, get ready to roll with the punches. Or, as Sun Tze said, "Those who are victorious plan effectively and change decisively." Be ready to change or retreat. So just how bad is it when everything is going wrong? Pin point the location of your mistakes and disasters to decide whether they are located above or below the waterline. If a ship has a hole above the waterline it isn't pretty, but the water isn't pouring in. If the hole is below the waterline then how big is it? A small leak can be repaired at the next port of call. A big hole with a big leak means you won't make it to the next port. Classify your problem as being above (but perhaps really irritating) or below the waterline and then decide how big it is. So what if you have a big hole below the waterline?

Before you start shouting "abandon ship" here is your third nautical tool. It comes courtesy of Dale Carnegie. Problems pile up on us and make those of us who weren't born optimists want to hide under our covers. On bad days, there seems to be a long trail of connected past disasters and failures that lead right up to our doorstep. Optimists, those self-assured people with great self-esteem, do not see the world that way. They see failures as caused by someone else, or as isolated occurrences that aren't connected at all. These good looking, well dressed, successful people put their enormous, ugly, past failures in Watertight Compartments. Imagine the good ship Lollipop runs into an iceberg. The iceberg tears a great big hole in the Lollipop's hull below the waterline. Water is rushing in. If the Captain is a pessimist, then he immediately remembers all the other stupid mistakes and calamities in their life and accepts this as part of that chain. But if the Captain of the Lollipop is an optimist, he curses at the iceberg and without a moments self incrimination, proceeds to order the watertight compartments closed. Parts of a ship can be sealed off to save the ship. You should consider no matter how bad, or how big your problem is, can it be sealed off? This doesn't mean you don't learn from your mistakes or avoid responsibility for them. You have to fix the damage some how and some day, but you don't have to do it immediately when that action could destroy you. It means that you don't let them defeat you when you can seal them off. Live to fight another day by taking those disasters and placing them in water tight compartments.

Having given you my Nautical Worry Killers, I can now peacefully sail off into the sunset. "Bon Voyage."

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JWR contributor Alan Douglas, an author, media executive, speaker, and attorney, lives con brio- except when he is grumpy.


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