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Jewish World Review Dec. 14, 2007 // 4 Teves 5768

It is not enough to identify with good if we cannot embrace it with the power of well-reasoned and strongly felt conviction

By Rabbi Yitzchok Adlerstein

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These days it seems the only crime worse than believing is attempting to get others to believe. We have become so tentative, so unsure of ourselves, that we think it best to raise our children with love and self-confidence, but not any single set of values; that we ought not to force our views on anyone, least of all our children.

Sadly, this moral uncertainty is also being embraced by our political leaders with little outcry

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | If there is one Biblical notion that all the monotheistic religions hold in common, it is the triumph of Good over Evil.

Actually, the Bible predicts the opposite.

Don't look too hard. It is pretty much right at the beginning. There is something profoundly disturbing about the story of Cain and Abel. It is the Bible's first story about the encounter of the good guy and the bad guy. But it doesn't end like it is supposed to. When the dust settles, the good guy is dead, and the bad guy cops a plea. Is that a message for all times? Shouldn't the guys in white triumph over their counterparts in black?

A late 16th century rabbi provides a chilling explanation. Cain, explains Rabbi Judah Loewe of Prague, represents the person in the throes of his yetzer Hora, his evil inclination. Abel is true to the Hebrew meaning of his name — hevel, which means emptiness, vacuousness. Even when Abel performs some good deed, such as in bringing the offering to which G-d responds favorably, it does not flow from some internal font of goodness. His actions — even his good actions — are superficial, not an expression of his essential self. (Seth, the brother yet to be born, represents the actualization of yetzer Tov, the inclination to good; his descendants would inherit the new world after the Flood.)

Put simply, Cain represents strong-willed evil, while Abel represents wimpy, irresolute good. When they clash, it is not even a close match. Sure-footed evil will forever triumph over good that stumbles and falters. One of the first messages of the Bible is that it is not enough to identify with good, if we cannot embrace it with the power of well-reasoned and strongly felt conviction.

This is a sobering conclusion in a world in which we are often derided for holding firm to personally held values. One of the few certainties that have survived to our day was eloquently stated by Oliver Wendel Holmes, often seen as a champion of moral relativism: "Certitude is not the test of certainty." We have come to mistrust any claim to have discovered a universal truth.

Perhaps the only crime worse than believing, in many circles, is attempting to get others to believe. We have become so tentative, so unsure of ourselves, that we think it best to raise our children with love and self-confidence, but not any single set of values. We ought not to force our views on anyone, least of all our children. Let them choose their values when they grow up.

This is tragic. At worst, we will produce amoral offspring. At best, they will often become a generation of Abels, incapable of standing up to the Cains that will certainly share their world.

At the Dartmouth presidential debate in late September, the candidates were asked what they thought about a Lexington, Mass. teacher who read a story to second graders about a prince who married a prince, i.e. about same-sex marriage. Senator Edwards supported the notion:

Second grade might be a little tough, but even in second grade to be exposed to all ... to all of those possibilities because I don't want to impose my view. Nobody made me G-d. I don't get to decide on behalf of my family or my children, as my wife, Elizabeth, who's spoken her own mind on this issue. I don't get to impose on them what it is that I believe is right.

Despite Suha Arafat's absence from the room, Hillary made no attempt to protest, to distance herself from the remark. Neither, for that matter, did any of the other candidates. The point was subtle enough that perhaps the rest of them should probably not be blamed. May G-d save us, however, from the moral vision of John Edwards.

One does not have to be G-d to forcefully teach children the difference between right and wrong, and a set of strongly-held values. It does, however, usually help to believe in G-d, and several of the Democratic candidates have been going out of their way to stress their belief. Believing in G-d, among other things, allows parents to view their task as fulfilling a Divine mission, not just providing gametes and game boys. Believing in G-d allows — often forces — believers to embrace some values as better, not just different.

Part of the challenge of parenting is to be clear enough in one's own values to be able to impart them to the next generation. The values that make a difference — the ones that require sacrifice and effort — compete with many counter-values. They are not so likely to survive if they are either unclear and conflicted, or "imposed" (to use Senator Edwards' word) by force and coercion. The trick is to understand them well enough to be able to demonstrate their value to children. This involves different lessons appropriate to children at different ages, and protecting them against exposure to harmful experiences and examples. If children come into their world with a tabula rasa, it does not stay empty very long. If we will not inscribe something of value on it, it does not stay blank. Many other pens wait to furiously scribble their dark messages.

Put more simply, there is a world of difference between education and imposition. But letting children chose from competing systems like sampling the dishes at a smorgasbord is a dereliction of parental duty. It will also spell the end of America.

Until the end of days, there will be no shortage of evil, much of it focused and determined. Good doesn't have a fighting chance if values are picked like choosing between different rolls of wallpaper. Good needs to be conveyed with passion and conviction. The parenting ethic of John Edwards will likely lead to a country not very sure of what it stands for, or where it is going.

Cain, unfortunately, is alive and well. Abel just won't make the cut. The story of the struggle between the two brothers is crucial at the dawn of humanity, because it underscores the need for G-d's guidance — the rest of the Bible. Having benefited from that guidance, we can find the mandate and the confidence necessary to be parents unashamed of making choices for our children. That doesn't make us G-d, it makes us G-d's partners.

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JWR contributor Rabbi Yitzchok Adlerstein holds the Irmas Chair in Jewish Law and Ethics at Loyola Law School in Los Angeles.

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