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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

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Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

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Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

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April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Jewish World Review Dec 20, 2007 / 11 Teves 5768

Sadly, born a human

By Lori Borgman

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | I know it is the season of good cheer, but I can't get a little girl named TaJanay Bailey off my mind. A lot of people can't.


She was a brown-eyed Indianapolis toddler that should have been watching Sesame Street and naming stuffed animals.


She was beaten to death, allegedly, by her mother and her mother's live-in boyfriend. They are charged with beating her, smacking her, whipping her and kneeing her right in the head.


She had been previously removed from the home by authorities. If TaJanay had been a dog, she never would have been returned to her "owners." Six animal rights groups would have taken up her cause and Ellen DeGeneres would have been crying on television.


But TaJanay had the misfortune of being a child, not an animal. Now she's a statistic, human collateral from the imploding structure of family. Children like TaJanay die frequently, which is why I'd like a word with the women today.


Ladies, we create expectations, individually and as a group. There used to be a consensus about the expectations and they cut across the board regardless of color or income.


The expectation was that a young woman dated a young man, they got serious about one another, tied the knot and then had children. In that order. Sometimes the order got out of sequence (an event as old as the history of man) but there was almost always an effort to "make things right."


Today, one of the more common expectations, furthered by women, is that there is no order -- women are free, easy, impregnable, disposable and replaceable.


We have let go of the expectation that the men who create babies will step up to the plate and become responsible husbands and fathers. You know why the men skate? Because women let them. In unprecedented numbers, women are giving away the milk for free and then wondering why the bulls wander off to greener pastures.


And then the woman left with a child welcomes yet another man into the equation. The minute he saunters through the door, those children are 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries than if they were living with two biological parents. So says the journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics.


A few "boyfriend" news items from recent months: In California, 6-year-old Oscar Jimenez Jr. was beaten to death, then buried under fertilizer and cement. In Arizona, Devon Shackleford, 2, was drowned in a swimming pool. Two-year-old Jayden Cangro, died after being thrown across a room in Utah.


In Pennsylvania, a man watching his girlfriend's 14-month-old baby killed the child when he put the baby's head in the crook of his arm and squeezed until he "heard a popping noise."


The boyfriend "accidentally" burns the baby's feet in the tub, "accidentally" lets the baby fall off the kitchen counter, or mom comes home from work and finds the kid "accidentally" got a black eye, bloody nose and skull fracture. And the woman lies, makes excuses, covers and chooses the boyfriend over her own flesh and blood.


It's time for women to grow a backbone and shove "accidental" out the door. It's time to rebuild a consensus of expectations, to quit pretending that all these alternative living arrangements have equal value.


No, I'm not judging a lifestyle. The lifestyle speaks for itself. Tragically, there's not always someone to speak for the kids.

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