A column called "Ask a Mexican" began as a one-time feature — written with tongue only partly in-cheek — by staff writer Gustavo Arellano for the OC Weekly in Orange County, Calif. It became a surprise hit and very popular continuing column. Judging by some of my own mail, I'm not surprised. In fact, I have long wanted to write a similar column and call it "Ask a Black Man."
Now is probably as good a time as any. People have questions about other people in our diverse society and it's often hard to find answers without worrying about offending somebody. Recent racial eruptions seem to have left some with so many questions and confusion that they are even willing to turn to a newspaper columnist for answers. For example:
Mr. Page:
Why is it when blacks use the word "nigger" there is no outcry? If you're offended by Michael Richards' use of this word, how do you feel when you are sitting in your car waiting for the light to change and the radio in car next to you is blaring this word, and worse, the driver's kids are in the car? I guess it's only wrong if a nonblack uses the word. Both parties are wrong, but like we would say when we were kids, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me."
Sincerely,
Ed L., Honolulu
Dear Ed:
Good points. And "aloha," Honolulu. Be careful, however, about what you say to that guy in the next car or you might get your own bones broken.
But seriously, the Rev. Jesse Jackson is trying to extend the legs of the controversy stirred up when Michael "Kramer" Richards of Seinfeld fame hurled the N-word at hecklers. Jackson has called on all entertainers and everyone else to stop using the word. Frankly, I don't expect much. The late, great comedian Richard Pryor turned against the word quite convincingly after using it so liberally in the 1970s. Pryor's condemnation of the word hasn't caught on yet, either, although I am always ready to be pleasantly surprised.
Dear Mr. Page:
Black-on-black crime (especially murder) is such a huge and rampant reality in this country, but G-d forbid a policeman might make a mistake and hurt or kill a black thug and they're ready to loot and riot at the drop of a hat. The question is: Can you make sense of this African-American hypocrisy?
Thank you,
M.D., Chicago
Dear M.D.:
I am often asked why so many black Americans still support the Rev. Jesse Jackson or the Rev. Al Sharpton, even though their tactics seem mostly to be stuck in the 1960s. I find my answer in wire stories like this recent dispatch from New York City: "The morning 23-year-old Sean Bell was shot to death by police, his grieving relatives did something that has become almost routine in such cases: They called the Rev. Al Sharpton. Within hours, the longtime civil-rights activist had consoled relatives, held two news conferences, and begun organizing a community rally for the next day."
Now, just ask yourself: If police shot your son to death before his wedding and wounded two friends after firing 50 shots into their car and there was no gun found in their car, whom would you call?
Dear Mr. Page:
I found it interesting that ESPN found an obscene gesture by Atlanta Falcons quarterback Michael Vick after the game Sunday to be offensive enough to blur it out. Did you notice this was not done with Mr. Richards' actions? So help me understand why you as well as other journalists and broadcasters have not written one sentence to crucify his actions.
Thanks for your time,
Fred T.
Dear Fred:
You're welcome, but I don't do sports. Besides, in the entertainment industry known as professional football, stars don't get stigmatized easily for affronts to mere decency. They have to blow a lot of touchdowns first.
Dear Mr. Page:
It may very well be that Mr. Richards is not a racist, if you consider a racist to be someone who harbors negative perceptions about and feelings toward anyone and everyone from a certain race. A likely scenario is that Mr. Richards realized from the lack of audience response that his act was not going over well, was thus already uptight and flew into a rage when heckled. I could be wrong, but I can't help thinking that if his hecklers had been two overweight white folks, he would have burst into an expletive-laden monologue about Moby Dick, etc
Best wishes,
Phil from Libertyville
Dear Phil:
True, but I don't think being called a big, fat whale carries quite the same sting.
