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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

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Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

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Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

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Jewish World Review Dec. 19, 2003 /24 Kislev, 5764

What is the ultimate gift we can give our children on Chanukah?

By Rabbi Daniel Cohen

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Re-thinking priorities during the Festival of Lights. Hype aside, there really is a "gift that keeps on giving"

http://www.jewishworldreview.com | Pokemon, Furby or Rock 'n' Roll Elmo. Which gift will our child enjoy? Do we give one big gift at the beginning of Chanukah or one on each night? What do we do at a Chanukah party besides eat latkes (potato pancakes) and spin driedel?

For most American Jews, these questions are most pressing during the Festival of Lights.

Fortunately, lighting the Chanukah candles is the most popular Jewish ritual in our society. Unfortunately, though, it is a challenge to move beyond the display of a menorah in our windows and the latest gifts from Toys R Us. Chanukah is not a Jewish Christmas. In Chanukah we celebrate the defeat of the Greek army whose desire it was to hellinize the Jewish people.

Chanukah is anti-assimilationist.

Chanukah is the holiday of rediscovering our Jewish roots and the secret of our survival. If we have been to Paris and didn't see the Mona Lisa, we have not been to Paris. If we experience Chanukah without seeing the hidden lights, we have not experienced Chanukah to the utmost. Each Jewish holiday is a vehicle for spiritual growth — an energizer.

What is the ultimate gift we can give our children on Chanukah? What gift will nurture their Jewish identity, give them joy, and strengthen their character and family bonds? It is not a computer, even with a Chanukah program. The greatest gift is Shabbes (Sabbath).

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This year, the first and last nights of Chanukah coincide with Shabbes. The secret of our ability to light Chanukah candles despite efforts to squelch the flame of Judaism throughout Jewish history is the observance of Sabbath.

Material gifts have a limited shelf life. Sabbath — a spiritual gift — lives on. Sabbath affords the Jew the tools to spiritual fulfillment and meaning. Sabbath enriches our lives with infinite everlasting value.

Deep down, our children do not want our gifts — they want us. They want our time, attention and love. Sabbath is an oasis in time. Rather than lighting the Chanukah candles on Friday night and going out, light the Shabbat candles as well and stay home.

Spend Friday evening and Saturday talking with your family about the why of Jewish identity. Go to synagogue. Sing Sabbath and Chanukah songs. Identify how each member of the family brings light to your life. The Israeli writer Ahad Ha'am reflects: "More than the Jew has kept Sabbath, Sabbath has kept the Jew." It is the key to Jewish Renaissance.

The question is not have we been through another Chanukah, but has Chanukah been through us?

Ideas abound for making Chanukah a fun and meaningful holiday for children. But whether it is the latest Chanukah video, talking driedel or encouraging our children to give one of their gifts away to someone less fortunate, without personal commitment to Jewish living our innovative ideas will falter.

The essence of Jewish parenting is to teach our children important life values. Spending Sabbath with one's family in an interactive environment away from work, the mall or the television may seem like a hardship, but it is the ultimate statement of our priorities for our children.

We would not be lighting the candles today if we did not have an ancestor who observed the Sabbath and lived a committed Jewish life. The following short story crystallizes our challenge and opportunity.

A couple was going on a Caribbean vacation and leaving little Jessica with Bubby and Zayde. The grandparents were delighted to have their granddaughter in their home for the next two weeks.

Jessica learned quickly that there were new ground rules in her new home. Before and after eating she made blessings over her food. In the morning, she recited Modeh Ani, thanking G-d for restoring her soul and, in the evening, she recited the Shema.

Jessica was convinced that there were four people in the house, one of them invisible called G-d.

The suntanned parents returned to reclaim Jessica and thank the grandparents. As Jessica was leaving, she raised her hand to kiss the mezuzah and she was heard to say, "Goodbye, G-d. I will not be seeing You till next year."

At the end of the holiday each one of us will affirm: I have been through Chanukah. Each one of us will share Chanukah stories with family and our children will certainly cherish their gifts (for a short time). However, the question is not have we been through another Chanukah, but has Chanukah been through us?

Did we maximize the message of the holiday?

On Chanukah we can do it! Chanukah is a holiday of inner transformation and realizing our potential as Jewish people. The flames of the candles symbolize the spark of G-dliness within each one of us.

Chanukah is about miracles. Gazing at the Chanukah candles should energize us to defy what we ordinarily expect of ourselves and give our children and our homes the gift of the light of Sabbath. After Chanukah, we will be able to say to G-d, we welcome You home each and every Friday night.

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Rabbi Daniel Cohen is the spiritual leader of Denver's BMH-BJ synagogue and director of Jewish Links, a local community outreach program. To comment, please click here.

© 2003, The article first appeared in the Intermountain Jewish News