In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Nov. 9, 2009 / 22 Mar-Cheshvan 5770

Marriage is the Maine point

By Kathryn Lopez

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Opposing gay marriage is a losing proposition. That is, at least, what everyone seems to say, on all sides of the political spectrum. Everyone, that is, except voters.

Maggie Gallagher, president of the National Organization for Marriage, has been my personal political hero for the last few election cycles, due to her tireless work in defense of the institution of marriage. It's a bit of a thankless, underappreciated task. Those who disagree with her are angry and hurting, and tend to lash out. Those who agree frequently just want to leave the issue to Maggie and not think about it. But, in various iterations, she's been at it for decades now. And she goes about her job reasonably — that is, with reason, compassion and knowledge. She knows it's about more than simply disagreeing with gay activists. It's about rebuilding an institution that's been neglected, abused and underappreciated. It's about reminding everyone what a precious gift marriage is. And it's about settling and codifying a definition that is at the core of human civilization, sexuality and children's very lives.

Gallagher woke up the morning after Tuesday's elections as a winner. It wasn't the first time and, because of the victory, probably won't be the last. This time, the fight was in Maine. And Question 1, the referendum to repeal a state law legalizing same-sex marriage there, won 53 percent to 47 percent. Once again, Gallagher reminded people of why this fight is an essential one.

The win came by a bigger margin than last year's big battle in California, when Gallagher served as a pivotal leader in defeating gay marriage there And the decisive win came despite the fact that more money was spent by the proponents of same-sex marriage this go-round, presumably having learned lessons from the previous defeat.

Robert P. George, a professor of politics at Princeton and founder of the American Principles Project, observes: "Maine is a northeastern liberal state with a significant student population. There are few blacks and very few Mormons. There is not a large Evangelical Christian population. The forces working in the state for the abolition of the conjugal conception of marriage as the union of husband and wife had the strong support not only of the media, but also of the state's governor and other leading political figures. They had a significant funding advantage. On Election Day, they got the large turnout that they believed would assure them of victory. Yet, when the votes were counted, the people of Maine came down solidly in favor of restoring the conjugal conception of marriage that the state's legislature and governor attempted to abolish."

"I think people may not understand the magnitude of what we were up against," Brian Brown, executive director of the National Organization of Marriage, emphasizes. "They had four years to build an effective grassroots organization and claimed 8,000 volunteers in a state with a population of only 1.3 million. Still they lost — and by a larger margin than in California." He asks where proponents of same-sex marriage go from here, "how they convince their base to fund another campaign. At this point they are 0 for 31." The "31" refers to the number of states where a gay marriage initiative has been defeated at the voting booth.

Why did it lose? It comes down to fundamentals "Most people know in their own heart that marriage is between a man and a woman," Brown says.

"Can you stand up for gay marriage?" a young man in downtown NYC asked me. In my best attempt to avoid confrontation, I replied, "No, thank you." He protested: "I'm fighting for my civil rights."

I don't wish that young man any ill will — quite the contrary. But the truth is: The majority of voters don't see it as he does. Furthermore, we do know what civil rights are, and we see some of them threatened. Tom Messner of the Heritage Foundation has a report out called "The Price of Prop 8," chronicling the acts of vandalism and harassment that opponents of gay marriage in California have been subjected to. Churches have been threatened and desecrated. Business owners have been targeted and their livelihoods have suffered. If you're not simply pulling a lever in the privacy of a voting booth, it takes remarkable courage to oppose gay marriage.

You can almost understand why even many conservatives have given up on the issue of protecting the institution of marriage as one between a man and a woman. Most of us know and love people who have same-sex inclinations and have, perhaps, adopted a homosexual lifestyle, perhaps even while eschewing political activism. Still, the success of conjugal marriage at the ballot box in the blue states of California and Maine may be "a momentum shifter," professor George says. "It gives the lie to what was, perhaps, the most compelling argument advanced by the forces favoring the redefinition of marriage, namely, the idea that the redefinition of marriage is inevitable — nothing can be done to prevent it."

Motivated by a desire to preserve something good — not, as critics charge, a bigoted desire to exclude people —Maggie Gallagher is a winner today, and not just politically. That's a good thing.

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