In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Oct. 14, 2010 / 6 Mar-Cheshvan, 5771

Readers get to meddle in lives of newlyweds , do they get the man chair or not?

By John Kass

John Kass

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | It's not every day that readers are invited to meddle in the affairs of two young newlyweds.

But my friend Wings and his lovely bride, Elizabeth, have just returned from their fantastic honeymoon in Spain. Other people are already meddling in their affairs, so you might as well join in, too.

First, there's the man chair issue.

And then the related question: Should men be dragged to Bed Bath & Beyond against their will so they can look at "just a few more things"?

As Meddler Numero Uno, I told Wings that to build a strong foundation for a happy marriage, he must get a man chair pronto.

Because if he doesn't, he might end up with the nesting tables instead. They're fine perches for violets and framed photographs and tasteful candle displays. But they're not a man chair.

And learned scientists have established that men who don't have a man chair to anchor them on the weekends often find themselves being dragged through the living hell that is Bed Bath & Beyond, often during the big game on TV.

If you don't believe me, just look at the couples in that store. The men are often shuffling, broken husks, mindlessly examining pillow shams, dust ruffles and "just a few more things, honey" for eons.

"Do you have a man chair?" Wings asked me, though he already knew the answer.

No, I said through clenched teeth.

Much to my everlasting shame, I do not have a man chair. Years ago, I didn't think it was important. What a fool.

"Don't listen to him," my wife told Wings over the phone. "Do what Elizabeth wants. Do what you want to do. Don't let John meddle."

Jeepers. That's a case of blatant reverse meddling if there ever was one. So I took Wings on a tour, that he might hear firsthand from older married guys.

"I don't have a man chair," said a burly fellow at the office, as other guys crowded around to hear his tale of woe. "I used to have one. I just loved my man chair."

What happened to your man chair?

"My wife made me give it away," he sighed. "It was a recliner. And she had the cats. She was worried that I'd kill her cats by reclining them to death."

Are the cats happy now?

"Oh, yeah, and my brother-in-law is happy, too, because I gave my chair to him, and he loves it," the guy said.

There was silence all around. We stared at our shoes rather than meet the poor guy's haunted eyes.

"So I don't have a man chair anymore," he said, before biting his lips to stifle a sob.

After that, Wings was quiet for a time, wondering whether those who do not learn from the mistakes of history are doomed to repeat them.

These days, he's a newlywed still aglow with the happiness of a fantastic wedding. And he still can't believe that a woman as great as Elizabeth actually married him.

But the saga of the guy who lost his man chair over the cats had a profound effect upon him, as he realized there are but two kinds of men in the world: Those who have man chairs, and those who wish they did.

Most young women surveyed said they didn't care if their men had man chairs. But a minority were stridently anti-man chair.

"I say no man chair," said a woman, as she hammered me with her frosty gaze. "No man chair."

Why the heck not?

"Well?" she asked, her voice rising. "Is there a WOMAN CHAIR?"

Naturally, I took the only course available. I ran away.

As everyone who has been married knows, honeymoons are nice, but they're not reality. And reality is the place where married couples live.

Reality wasn't where Betty and I took our Caribbean honeymoon centuries ago. And I was so mellow from languishing on white sands that when we got back, I didn't fully appreciate my man-chair deficit.

As for Wings and Elizabeth, what's realistic about the couple strolling through ancient Segovia? Sure, they lunched on the fantastic Spanish ham of the acorns. Yes, they sipped Ribera del Duero wine and nibbled suckling pig from their hotel balcony, watching the sun set over the ancient cathedral where Isabella was crowned queen of Spain.

It sounds lovely. But reality is what happens back home, when you decide on either the man chair or the nesting tables.

If it's nesting tables, you're compelled to festoon them with various objects, which leads us to the terror that is Bed Bath & Beyond.

"I just hate it," said another guy, whose wife is impervious to his piteous screams as she drives him to the mall. "You're standing there, and she asks you if you like the towels. I don't care what the towels look like, but she asks, and I pretend to have an opinion, If there's one thing I really hate, it's having to have an opinion about towels when I don't really care one way or another!"

So, do you have a man chair?

"No," said the guy.

Of course.

It's too late for guys like us.

But will my readers allow history to repeat itself for Wings and Elizabeth?

Do readers want him to get the man chair? Or will you doom the poor guy to the nesting tables and Bed Bath & Beyond?

Yes, it's their life.

But you're the meddlers. So let me know. Start meddling.

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