In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Oct. 6, 2010 / 28 Tishrei, 5771

The right response to heartless bullying

By Marybeth Hicks

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The marching band, the tailgate parties, the chill in the air and even fireworks when the home team scored a touchdown — all the trappings of a perfect college football game created a magical parent's weekend on our daughter's university campus.

But while we mingled casually with her friends and their families, the students at Rutgers University were forced to entertain an unwelcome visitor to their campus: Grief.

Last week, Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi learned he was unknowingly videoed while in the privacy of his dorm room engaged in a gay sexual encounter by two fellow students whom authorities say were his roommate, Dharun Ravi, and another student, Molly Wei. Mr. Ravi set up a camera in the room so that he and Miss Wei could stream the video live online, police said.

Upon learning of his exploitation, Mr. Clementi sought redress through university housing authorities, but apparently was emotionally unable to accept the public humiliation to which he had been subject. His Facebook status, "Jumping off the gw bridge [sic] sorry," conveys in its brevity his helpless desperation.

Mr. Clementi's tragic suicide left a heartbroken family and a bewildered community that struggles to understand why a shy, unassuming, accomplished, person was the target of such a despicable invasion of privacy.

The quick and politically expedient answer is that he was gay. Public outcry from every corner —including Secretary of Education Arne Duncan and entertainer Ellen Degeneres — has focused on the fact of his nonconforming sexuality as the reason why Mr. Clementi was targeted.

In fact, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) advocates, employing the radical left's go-to strategy, "Never let a crisis go to waste," point to Mr. Clementi's death and several other recent gay-teen suicides as proof that we must institutionalize LGBT awareness and acceptance training at every stage of a child's education in order to prevent bullying of gay students.

But the theory — that kids will cease to belittle student of non-conforming sexuality through early sensitivity training — will only put more teens and young adults at risk of bullying, depression and suicide. Kids don't need to be taught about sexual preference. They need to be taught right from wrong.

I don't believe Mr. Clementi's roommate and another friend invaded his privacy to stream his sexual encounter online because he was gay. Early evidence suggests both students have a history of accepting gay friends and were essentially amused by Mr. Clementi's sexuality.

They did it because they have no conscience.

The question we should be asking in the aftermath of this tragedy isn't, "How can we protect gay students?" It's, "What kind of person would do such a thing to another human being?"

Our hypersexual culture promotes sexual awareness and activity — for both gay and straight adolescents — far too soon. The far Left's insistence on comprehensive sexual education isn't protecting children and teens, but rather is promoting the emotionally powerful experience of sex to an immature and morally inept generation. Even in some elementary schools across the nation, the Left seeks to establish programs that encourage students to acknowledge homosexuality in themselves or others long before children have the maturity to do so.

Meanwhile, as revealed every two years in the Josephson Institute's longitudinal survey of American teenagers, our nation's youth lack the moral compass and ethical maturity to know that some behaviors are always wrong, no matter whom you target.

This tragic story is not about a gay kid being bullied. It's about all kids learning and conforming to a societal standard of morality, decency and civility that would result in genuine respect for others. And it's about learning a behavior code in which the bullying of another person by invading his privacy would be unthinkable.

If we buy into the knee-jerk reaction that what's needed is more sexual education and greater advocacy of the gay agenda, we're selling short all kids — gay and straight. What they need instead is character education.

The right response to this appalling episode is to halt sexuality education in favor of developing in our young people the one thing that would protect every child from heartless bullying: A conscience.

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JWR contributor Marybeth Hicks, a wife of more than 20 years and mother of four children, lives in the Midwest. She uses her column to share her perspective on issues and experiences that shape families nationwide. To comment, please click here.


© 2009, Marybeth Hicks