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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Sept. 28, 2012/ 12 Tishrei, 5773

Three questions for prospective parents

By Lori Borgman

Lori Borgman


http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | They are the three questions that every man and woman considering having a child should answer. They are the questions that friends of ours were asked by a judge when they appeared in court to finalize their adoption.

They stood with their beautiful baby girl with the dark hair and dancing eyes as the judge solemnly asked, "Do you wish to adopt this baby and do you understand that it will be forever?"

In many ways, forming a family through adoption has a profound element of nobility because it is so intensely purposeful and intentional. Prospective parents wait, yearn, hope, pursue leads, wait more, shell out vast amounts of money and incur incredible debt for the privilege of parenting. They are positively gleeful when a little bundle turns their lives upside down.

They have ached and waited for a job that, as the judge said, is forever. Being a mother or father lasts far beyond the adorable little baby stage and the toddler stage. You can't walk away from the job when you lose interest, life becomes difficult, more exciting things call to you, or the child becomes a lot to handle. Being a parent does not end when a child turns 18, or even 21. The role of the parent changes over the years, but it never ends.

"Will you love this baby?" the judge asked.

Love requires selflessness. We give a lot of lip service to putting others ahead of ourselves, but most of us don't truly understanding the concept until we have children. It is then, as our own pleasures, comforts, wants and sleep routines take a distant backseat, that we truly begin to grasp the essence of selflessness.

Love calls you to put the baby's well being ahead of your own. Love calls you to a new responsibility and a heightened vigilance -- to protect that baby from anything or anybody that would cause your baby harm.

"Can you provide financially for this baby?" the judge asked.

Fair question. A baby is first and foremost the responsibility of the mother and father who brought the baby into the world. Parents should have a means of providing for their children.

With so many children falling through the cracks, these are good questions to answer when contemplating having a baby, whether you are 17 or 35. Do you understand that being a parent is forever? Will you love this baby? Can you provide financially for this baby?

Our friends eagerly answered yes to all of the questions.

When the judge finished addressing the parents, she turned to the grandparents and asked them to state their full names. A bit unnerved, wondering why they would be part of the hearing, they stated their names and waited to see what would happen next.

The judge looked them square in the eye and said, "Have you been spoiling this baby?"

"Yes," they said.

When they were outside the courtroom in the hallway of the courthouse, a lawyer walked by, looked at the little family, nodded toward the baby and said, "I hope she hasn't committed a criminal offense."

Without missing a beat, her momma said, "She has stolen our hearts."

Every child should be so fortunate.


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