In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Forced Family Fun serves its purpose

By Cindy Hoedel

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) I'm a big believer in "FFF": forced family fun. A girlfriend of mine coined the term when we were in high school. She, like me, had two siblings who were close to her in age but could have come from Ork for all the interests they shared. Her parents, like mine, periodically tried to promote familial bonding through domestic field trips.

As a teen I found FFF tedious. But, guess what, it worked. Because now, as a parent of teens, I love the concept. Sometimes our agenda is no more ambitious than walking the dogs at a nearby for a couple of hours; other times travel is involved, like a daytrip to the state fair.

But usually, what I'm really trying to force into our family time is culture. The closer our kids get to leaving the family nest, the more urgently I feel the need to infect them with a passion for ballet and opera, theater and film.

An appreciation of the arts is an essential tool for dealing with life. Your family is always there for you, sure, but they can't put on a 3½-hour spectacle that alters the state of your soul like seeing Olga Borodina sing "Carmen." Who needs therapy when $200 gets you a prime orchestra seat at the Met?

Even when I was in college and broke, I can't count the number of crises I sorted out by staring for hours at a painting by Pierre Bonnard or watching a borrowed library copy of "La Dolce Vita ." I want that for my kids. It beats Jell-O shots.

Over the years I've discovered ways to increase the kids' receptiveness to cultural activities:

Divide and conquer. Siblings often have entirely different tastes in music, fashion, art and humor. It's important to take those into account. Over spring break in Las Vegas, we hit the jackpot and all four of us enjoyed "Phantom of the Opera" and "Spamalot." But I would never inflict "Mamma Mia" on our 17-year-old son or "The Santaland Diaries" on our 13-year-old daughter.

Expand the tribe. Letting kids bring a friend along on "family outings" can entice them to agree to an activity they would otherwise reject, such as a visit to an art fair or a silent film festival.

Name that event. Until our son got a job, every Friday night at our house was Family Movie Night. We would darken the room, pop popcorn, bring in pillows and throws and - the best part - watch old classic films with Audrey Hepburn or Humphrey Bogart instead of "Pirates of the Caribbean" for the 900th time. The kids used to jokingly call it "Old Boring Movie Night," but recently they said we ought to watch "Key Largo" again because it's been so long. Success!

Bribe them with food. Here's how I sell a visit to the art gallery: "Let's have a picnic on the lawn of the Nelson then walk through the museum - what kind of desserts should we bring?" My girlfriend and I suspect the traditional pre-show dinner at Lidia's may be part of the reason our daughters continue to insist on seeing the "Nutcracker" year after year. Who cares? Whatever it takes, I'm in.

Compromise most of your principles. In a perfect world, my kids would choose to wear a suit or party dress to the theater or concert hall. They would sit in rapt, silent attention throughout the performance. On the ride home they would make perceptive comments about choreography or the interpretation of the score. Instead I settle for clothing that is clean and un-rumpled, a few whispered exchanges during the show and post-show commentary along the lines of, "Huh? It was OK. Can we go to Taco Bell?"

I figure if I don't sweat the small stuff, the culture bug will sneak up on them and one day they'll drag their kids to "Aida."

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