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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review August 23, 2010 / 13 Elul, 5770

‘They're Just Killing People Up Here’

By Mitch Albom

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Rodney Martin saw Darryle Miller just last month. They were standing in the parking lot of St. Cecilia's gym, the college coach and his former player, talking about life, sports, about Darryle's baby daughter. Darryle flipped open his phone to show off the latest photos.

"Then, right before he left," Martin recalled, "he turned and said, 'Coach, you gotta help me get out of this place. They're just killing people up here.' "

Three weeks later, Darryle was dead.

They're just killing people up here. Darryle left a Detroit club last Sunday morning, after a birthday party for a friend. Someone stopped him. Someone apparently wanted his sunglasses. Someone shot him in the back and took them.

The case is under investigation. But you know the story. A confrontation. A bullet. Another young man dies. Another baby grows up without a father. That's the story. A familiar story. A Detroit story. Too familiar.

Darryle Miller, 20, was a basketball star at Northwestern High, a 6-foot-6 swing player who did a lot by doing a little of everything, shoot, defend, rebound, block. "I watched him play three games in one Saturday during summer league," Martin recalled, "that night, we offered him a scholarship."

Darryle joined Martin at Tiffin University in northern Ohio, a small NCAA Division II school on a nice campus by the Sandusky River. By many Detroit standards, he was a success story. He made it out.

But Martin left Tiffin in 2009 and Darryle, a loyal kid, said if his coach left, he was leaving, too. Martin hooked on with Bethune-Cookman University in Florida. He was trying to get Darryle a spot there or someplace else.

Then, last Sunday, Martin's phone rang.

Too late.

Much has been made over the sunglasses Darryle wore. Supposedly they were high-end Cartier shades, a hot item on the streets, rumored to cost as much as $2,400.

Maybe they cost that much. Maybe they didn't. Maybe they were knockoffs. Whatever. In the aftermath, some people have angrily questioned what a young adult like that was doing with sunglasses like those.

Wearing them, that's what. He didn't steal them. He paid for them. And while it might be a silly or irresponsible expenditure of money, if you think that earns him a bullet in the back, there is something perverse in your calculations.

The problem isn't Darryle Miller, the problem is the guy who shot him. The problem is the trigger and the bullet, not what sat on Miller's nose. If we have become so accepting of random murder that our philosophy is "don't go out with nice things" we have accepted that our city is a killing field and you are not there to live in it, only to survive it.

"I would never have thought in a million years that my son would be gone for sunglasses that he paid for," Rose Ford, Darryle's mother, said, choking back her emotion. "I don't know what they cost ... but whatever they cost, my son worked, he took care of his daughter, he went to school to reach his goal. ... And this person robbed him of his life. It's not fair."

Things haven't been fair here in a long time.

Murder for accessories is nothing new. Years ago it was for certain Air Jordan shoes. Or Max Julien jackets. Or Cazal glasses. There is always some "gotta have" item, and none of them is worth dying over. But before you mock the victim, ask yourself how fast you bought an iPhone, or the newest model car. Most American consumers operate under the same impulses: You see. You want. You buy. Darryle Miller did, too. But on our streets, sadly, the system is different. You see. You want. You take.

According to his mother, Darryle was working as a HIV counselor and earning money to support his daughter. Many young men, former teammates, some who only knew him a short while, were expected at his funeral. Martin, his college coach, used to predict that Darryle would one day come back to Detroit, after graduating, and "open a store or something, find some way to give back."

There will be no giving back now. Darryle Miller took the worst our city dishes out, a bullet in the back, and he's not getting up. Police are trying to solve the case. Meanwhile the door closes a little more, people hide inside a little more, people stay away a little more. They're just killing people up here. Who knew the latest lost son of the city would sum it up so well before he left?

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