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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Take guesswork out of being a good guest

By Cindy Hoedel


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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) It's high-summer party season. Are you being a good guest?

I recently polled some terrific party-throwers about their pet peeves when it comes to guest behavior. It was self-serving on my part, an attempt to make their lives easier so they'll keep having parties.

It wasn't easy getting the Superhosts to dish. That's because A-class party throwers tend to like people. They don't get their knickers in a twist over petty matters.

But once they warmed to the subject, most were able to rattle off a few minor irritations they would be happy not to have to deal with when they open their homes to others. As a public service, based on their observations, here is a little guide to being a good guest:

Don't come early. No matter what. If the invitation is for 7 p.m., ringing the doorbell at 6:59 is an infraction. "If the party's at 7, I'm just getting out of the shower at 6:45," one host explained. If you routinely allow yourself extra travel time and find yourself on your host's street a few minutes early, keep driving. There are no exceptions to the no-early-birds rule. And don't call to ask if you can come early, unless your request ends with "to help you scrub the toilets."

Don't park in the driveway. It's no fun if the host's car is blocked in when she needs to make an ice run.

Don't overstay your welcome. This doesn't mean you can't stay late. It means to let the hosts decide when the party is over. If your host begins to yawn and express wonder at the time, you probably missed some earlier cues to head for the door. When you are offered coffee, for example, whether or not you partake of it, the party is in its final stages. If there is no coffee, but the host stops offering to refill your empty glass, it's time to go. The next rule is a corollary of this one:

Don't assume you can spend the night. No good hosts are going to refuse you overnight accommodation on their couch, especially if you have over-imbibed. But you shouldn't put them in that position. Call a cab or ask another guest for a lift.

Don't wash the dishes. It's polite to offer to help attack the stack of dirty plates and glasses, but if the answer is "leave `em," step away from the sink. If you are one of those people who can't bear to face dirty dishes the next morning, tough. It's not your house. Maybe your host can't bear to see people cleaning at a party.

Don't ask if you can bring extra guests, children or pets. Of course, it's fine to bring kids, visiting relatives or Fido if they are expressly invited. But no prompting.

Interestingly, none of the Superhosts complained about guests who arrive empty-handed. That just proves good hosts are generous, which leads me to a final rule:

Bring something. It doesn't matter what. A handpicked bunch of wildflowers is perfect, and any offering of food or beverage is enough to show your appreciation at being included in the fun.

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Cindy Hoedel is a columnist for The Kansas City Star.. Send a note by clicking here.



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