In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 23, 2014 / 25 Tammuz, 5774

Mom Just Wants a Little Facebook Time

By Ana Veciana-Suarez

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | I have ruined Facebook for my children. Or so they say. See, any time parents sign up for something -- MySpace, Twitter, YouTube, texting -- the level of it-ness sinks like a deep sea diver in leaded boots.

So as payback, my younger kids, the teenagers still living at home and practicing the refined art of being cool, have refused my numerous attempts to friend them. Which, of course, makes me suspicious. What the heck are they posting? Sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll? Or is it sex, drugs and rap?

In any case, I confronted them with their most recent rejection earlier this week.

"You can't be friends with your mother!" one howled. "It's so ... so ... lame."

I pointed out that their older siblings are part of my friends network, but this line of reasoning did little to sway them. Their older sister is very pregnant and her profile photo is a full-view shot of her bulging belly. One brother posted pix of his twin daughters and the other of his girlfriend.

Tame, all so tame -- but older siblings are still way cooler than mothers with funny haircuts. Siblings are young. Their hair is gelled. They're pictured doing fun things, like partying. A photo of a middle-aged woman who is clearly your mother, on the other hand, slides right into embarrassing. And if she happens to comment on your wall -- Ack! Don't even go there. The potential for humiliation is immeasurable.

Nonetheless I keep trying to open the lines of Facebook communication with my teens, sending them friend requests about once a week, which they ignore at their peril. Last week, one accused me of stalking him.

He's right. When I visit other family members' pages, I click on every picture in which he appears. Checking, just checking.

I am not a prolific user of the social networking site, however. I rarely leave a message on my wall, though every once in a while I tell myself I should, if only because so many prefer that form of communication. Truth is, I just don't have any serious thoughts to share on a regular basis -- child-rearing pretty much took care of that part of the brain -- and I'm really not that interested in a running commentary about anybody else's deep brain matter either.

Yes, I know, that makes me sound old and crotchety. So be it. I don't want to clutter my life any more than it already is.

To be hip, I still check on my friend requests and browse through friend suggestions, some of which I ignore. If I don't know somebody, why would I want to be friends, right?

I'm also constantly asked to take quizzes and join causes, all of them seemingly interesting and worthy, but I never manage to get around to it. Cooking, laundry and that minor diversion called a job get in the way. Plus, these events don't seem REAL.

Maybe because it's all so public. There are friends of friends posting comments that make me feel like I'm eavesdropping. Some photos are far from flattering, and the occasional flash of pseudo-intimacy is ... well, uncomfortable for somebody like me who knows, personally and professionally, the value of privacy.

But maybe that's the point, to live life as if one is performing. These days nothing really happens unless it's recorded, posted, filmed, blogged, permalinked or commented on -- which may explain why my three teenagers don't want me in their virtual audience.

After all, what might a mother with lightning-quick fingers say in front of the whole entire world?

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Ana Veciana-Suarez is a family columnist for The Miami Herald

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