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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 13, 2012/ 23 Tamuz, 5772

The stork has landed

By Lori Borgman

Lori Borgman


http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | They've had the nursery set up for two years. The white crib with the soft green blanket hanging over the side stands by the window. Wooden cutouts of smiling farm animals, a pig, a sheep, and a cow hang on the wall. A needlepoint pillow that her mother made sits in the rocking chair.

The layette is complete. Green and yellow sleepers, booties and little hats have been tucked in the dresser drawers. They are prepared for either a boy or girl.

Several expectant mothers have looked at their "book" as they say in the adoption world. The "book" is where you tell about yourself, your life, your views, what you might offer a child in the way of family. You include spontaneous pictures of yourselves doing everyday things. Spontaneous pictures carefully posed. It's an uncomfortable way to convey information. It feels like marketing.

Every weekend they go shopping and buy one new thing for the baby they don't have. A car seat, a rattle, a stroller, a stuffed animal, more diapers.

A year passes and they change adoption agencies. Several months later they have a match. A birth mother wants them to have her baby. They count down the months, positing innumerable scenarios for an on-time delivery, early delivery and late delivery.

The due date comes and the birth mother delivers a healthy full-term baby. And then the birth mother changes her mind.

They are devastated. They grieve and mourn for the baby they were ready to love. Sadness rolls like waves.

They resume a facsimile of a routine when one morning the phone rings. There is a baby. The mother has already delivered and she wants them.

Sorrow kisses you on one cheek and joy on the other.

Within hours, they are in the car with all the requisite baby paraphernalia. They tell the hotel clerk they don't know how many nights they'll be staying because they are in town to adopt a baby and don't know when the baby will be released.

When they return to their hotel room that night, just the two of them, a new baby blanket sits on their bed. It is from the hotel manager and the desk clerk.

The baby is released the next day and they ponder the drive home. They aren't about to take the interstate, where crazy people fly by at 85 mph perfectly oblivious to the fact that there is a precious three-day old baby snuggled in a car seat in the backseat of the car. They worry about the baby. They worry about the heat. They worry about whether the car will break down. It never has, but you never know.

They decide it will be safer and easier to pull off on small roads should a need arise, so they take state highways and winding back roads all the way home.

At long last, the crib has an occupant, the farm animals on the wall have someone to watch, the rocking chair has reason to rock and a new mother and father have hearts about to burst.


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