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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 3, 2013/ 26 Sivan 5773

Teaching Kids Not to Help an Old Lady

By Lenore Skenazy



http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Here's a bit of advice real "safety experts" are giving kids — and parents. It's poisonous. But first, the back story:

The other day, a blogger named Lisa Flam wrote on a popular parenting website that her seventh-grader came home one day and announced he "didn't do it." Didn't do what? He and his friend were walking home from school (points for that!), when a white-haired lady stood in her doorway and requested the boys' help. "She asked them to move a medium-size package from her front step into her house," Flam wrote. "On the sidewalk, the boys wondered what to do."

At first, they did absolutely nothing, knowing that they "shouldn't." After all, they didn't know this woman, making her a stranger, making this fall into the dreaded category of "stranger danger." But then, after the woman said she's 84 years old and couldn't move it herself, the other boy did the dirty deed:

He helped an old lady.

The blogger's son did not. So — torn between gratitude that her son understands that the world is full of danger and doubts as to whether his refusal to help actually constituted good judgment — the mom called (who else?) the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children. Those are the folks who put the missing kids' pictures on the milk cartons and neglected to mention that the vast majority were not taken by a stranger.

Nancy McBride, the safety director there, told the blogger her son was absolutely right to not jump in. Wrote Flam: "Even though the woman appeared harmless, (McBride) said, children need to be taught to follow the rules consistently, because looks can be deceiving. 'Adults should not be asking kids for help,' she said, adding that women have been used to entice children and that one of the top 'tricks' used to lure children is to ask them any question at all. 'I don't want the little boy to feel bad who helped her, but he made a judgment call that turned out O.K. this time, but it might not be O.K. next time. You don't know who's in the house with her.'"

Jeez Louise! It "turned out O.K." — as if it was just sheer luck that the woman wasn't shilling for a psychopath?!

Flam continued quoting her new mentor: "If the woman had fallen or had another immediate need, the boys, armed with their cellphones, could have called 911, Ms. McBride said. In the absence of an emergency, she said, they should have shifted the burden to a parent or school official."

So seventh-grade boys — young men, in tandem — are being instructed to "shift the burden." Always ask an official! Do not — repeat, do not — attempt to do anything on your own. Burn that Boy Scout oath!

The mom ends her story by worrying some more whether her son did the right thing. Then she invokes the Cleveland kidnappings and finally concludes that maybe someday, her son will be old enough to help.

And it's not even that I blame this mom for her fears. I blame a whole society and its "experts," bent on convincing us that our kids are in constant danger and that the only way to keep them safe is to imagine the worst-case scenarios (for example, a pimp's hiring an 84-year-old accomplice) and proceed as if those were likely to happen today to our kids.

They're not.

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