In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 3, 2010 21 Sivan 5770

Gary Coleman, '80's Sensation, Deserved Better

By Heather Robinson

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | As I started to write about the death, last weekend, of Gary Coleman, my pen leaked all over my hand. It seems fitting that, writing about this pop culture icon, I got a taste--albeit a tiny one--of bad luck.

In this age of psychology, when diagnoses substitute for myth in our efforts to explain tragedy, occasionally one comes across a story that underscores the inadequacy of all these theories to explain the inexplicable.

Such is the story of Gary Coleman's life.

Like all kids of the '80's, I loved him. Who could forget that first episode of Diff'rent Strokes, when a chubby-cheeked, angelic Coleman calls big sister Kimberly (Dana Plato) "metal mouth"? Or the episode where he and brother Willis (Todd Bridges), who played two black brothers adopted by a wealthy white man, protectively spy on Kimberly, tossing popcorn on her and her date at the movies?

I remember sitting with my own brothers on bean bag chairs in our basement in the 80's and watching the episode in which Arnold, Gary Coleman's character, meets his new friend Kathy, a little girl in a wheelchair (the fact that this episode and several others were written by Marshall Goldberg, a family friend who attained mythic stature in our minds for having quit his job as an Ivy-educated attorney to "make it" as a Hollywood sitcom writer, only enhanced the Diff'rent Strokes mystique for us).

How wonderful to remember Coleman's gap-toothed smile and the joy and irreverence ("Whachoo talkin' 'bout Willis?") that radiated from him. I also remember the first creeping signs on that face of a bitterness that seemed to coincide with the fading of that utterly adorable, plump-cheeked countenance.

Life after Diff'rent Strokes was hard for Gary Coleman. Like Christian Darling, the college football star in Irwin Shaw's classic short story, "The 80 Yard Run," he peaked early. Or is that just an easy way of explaining what happened? Is it more accurate, maybe, to admit that we, the fickle, ungrateful public, simply lost interest in his great gifts after the bloom of his youth was gone?

Plagued with that most outrageous of misfortunes, poor health, Gary Coleman, who had been diagnosed at age 2 with a kidney disease, underwent dialysis all of his life--and remained ill (He had two transplants before he was 14, which stunted his growth).

(From 20/20, 1999)

As Arnold Jackson, he brought joy and entertainment to millions. But after the curtain came down, he was often alone. The New York Post reports, "after the show ended Coleman struggled to find work, landing only bit parts in low-budget projects as he toiled in the long shadow of his star role. Increasingly bitter, he bristled at his continued association with the part of Arnold Jackson, but at the same time, continued to capitalize off the role by appearing in minor reality shows and other programs."

It seems that he tried to stay productive and remain relevant. But as a short, physically unattractive man, he did not have the cache he had as a tiny, adorable boy. And perhaps there is more. Gary Coleman reminded us of our own youth, of laughter and good times. We didn't want to see him age and struggle. It was just too real.

Gary Coleman knew what the shallow world wanted from him. Like a faded beauty or a crippled racehorse, he had outlived his prime star years. Perhaps worse still, his parents took control of most of his fortune and allegedly took advantage of him (in 2000, he was forced to take a job as a mall security guard).

There is no word in our reflexively upbeat, self-help, psychology-oriented culture for what happened to Gary Coleman. To convey the tragic aspects of his life, it's best to go to Yiddish, a language of humor, of resigned strength, and of suffering. Gary Coleman simply had no mazl ( luck). At least not in health, or in family, those two most important blessings. If we can take a lesson from his life, it is this: do not take those blessings for granted.

It is, simply, tragic and unfair that someone who brought so much joy and laughter to so many got such hardship in return.

Let us hope he gets better treatment in the Next World.

Rest in Peace.

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JWR contributor Heather Robinson is a New York City-based independent journalist. She has written for The Wall Street Journal, The New York Post, New York Magazine, Time Out New York, The Philadelphia Inquirer, The Los Angeles Daily News, Heeb magazine, and other publications. Comment by clicking here.

© 2010, Heather Robinson