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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 11, 2010 / 29 Sivan

Drifting down the river of life

By Lori Borgman

Lori Borgman


http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Some of the best boating the husband and I ever did was with an experienced friend and river guide in a McKenzie River drift boat. It was 30 years ago. We were young, idealistic, newly married DINKs — double-income-no-kids. Life was cotton candy clouds and deep blue skies.

Drifting sounds like you plunk the boat in the water and unpack the picnic lunch Aunt Bea made, but there's more to it than you think.

Just like a drift boat on a river yields intervals of calm punctuated by hair-raising screams, so the journey of marriage has its whitewaters and placid pools.

Friends of Al and Tipper Gore say their marriage came undone because they drifted apart. After forty years they found themselves on separate currents. Drifting is inherent with danger.

The art to drifting is knowing the river. You have to read the currents that ripple across the surface and the ones that swirl beneath. You have to circumvent floating dead wood and maneuver tight turns between river rocks.

You have to listen to your guide. If your guide says to push the paddle, you push. If your guide says pull, you pull. If your guide says to pat your head and rub your stomach, you do that, too.

Occasionally, you even have to put up with attitude. I said to the left! What are you thinking? Are you sleeping back there? But sometimes, on the backside of those jagged rocks, you just might catch a rainbow.

The river changes from season to season, so it's a good idea to check in with the regulars, the old-timers hanging at the coffee shop who have been drifting longer and know the course.

Even in a span of comfort and ease you have to keep an open eye. You don't want to tangle with an angler's line, let loose of a paddle or assume the hard part is over.

Ninety-five percent of drifting is turning the boat at a 45-degree angle to the current and pulling away from the obstacles. A sharp turn from any threat is your best protection.

There can be sniping and frustration in rough waters. But if you stay cool and stay the course, you'll also see ferns waving from moss-covered banks and sunlight teasing through towering firs.

The sounds of the river are occasionally accompanied by a distant rush. The rush grows louder and louder and before you know it the water on the horizon has a rounded edge. The water doesn't end. It drops. Sharply.

The boat tips, plunges, cuts into the water below and sends cascading plumes arcing into the air.

It's only natural to approach your first waterfall screaming, "We can't, we can't, we can't!"

But you do, you do, you do.

Drenched and soaked to the skin, screaming and laughing and heart beating wildly, you might not want to run the falls again, but there is value in knowing you can if you have to.

Lazy drifts, white waters and unexpected falls are all a part of the journey of marriage. Drifting in a river boat is quite an adventure, too.


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