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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review May 8, 2012/ 17 Iyar, 5772

Love can survive anything, even 65 years

By Lori Borgman

Lori Borgman


http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | They are sitting on the piano bench that has been dragged to the front hall because the light is better there. He is 87 and she is 86. They are the parents of a best friend and will celebrate their 65th wedding anniversary. They are here because the husband and I occasionally do portraits for people if our arms are twisted just so.

She is wearing a lovely emerald green dress and a double strand of crystal beads. He is wearing a dark blue suit, light blue shirt, snappy tie and comfortable shoes.

They smile easily, turning their heads a quarter inch this way and a quarter inch that way. I tell him to put his arm around her and hold her tight. He wraps his arm around her and pulls her close. She giggles like a school girl and leans into him. They have melded into one, totally at ease and comfortable -- with one another, with the passing of time and with health issues of late.

We finish taking pictures and ask how they met. So they do what couples who have been married a long time do. They tell their story. Together.

He says it was a blind date. He already had a girlfriend and someone asked him to fix her up with one of his friends. Because he once had a bad blind date himself -- "the girl had a face like a bulldog," he says, wincing -- he decided to take her out himself first before introducing her to his friend.

"We went bowling," he says.

She looks around while she listens and then looks at him. Smiling, all the while smiling.

"We bowled eight games and I lost seven out of eight," he says. "And she laughed every time."

"A man told me not to keep laughing because it would make him mad," she says. "But I did. I laughed."

"She laughed!" he says, with mock exasperation.

"I gave him my earrings to hold. He put them in his pocket and forgot about them."

"It was deliberate," he says," so she could see me the next day. We married five months and 10 days later."

There is a rich history here. With humble beginnings, they have created a family and a home, managed money well, raised children with the requisite joys and challenges, weathered the storms and rode the waves.

What's nagging at me while looking at them is the growing trend known as the graying of divorce. One in four couples now filing for divorce is over 50. Just when they close in on the finish line, they throw in the towel. Of course there can be legitimate reasons, but sometimes there really aren't and the human toll is gut wrenching.

This dapper Dan and his girl in the emerald green make me look forward to growing old with my better half, finishing each other's stories, not caring if the wrinkles show, just glad to be weathering the storms, enjoying the sights and still have one another.

Maybe someone will take our picture on the piano bench one day, too.


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