In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review May 2, 2011 / 29 Nissan, 5771

When Katie Couric Got Pulled Off the Air…

By Alan Douglas

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Once upon a time, I had a business partner who prided himself on being unreliable. He viewed his lack of integrity as a form of management delegation. He bragged that it was what he learned when obtaining his MBA from Harvard. "If you don't do it often enough, people will stop asking you to do" he boasted. We had a woman in our office that was so negative and nasty we all avoided her. Coaching, mentoring, warnings all failed to persuade this woman to treat her colleagues with respect. My partner and I had numerous discussions about firing her but despite his assurances; she continued her reign of terror. For months my partner continued to avoid the thankless task of terminating her employment. She enjoyed being miserable, and making the rest of the world share her misery.

One Friday afternoon I ran into the woman in the hallway. I did my best to muster up a cherry disposition, and belted out an enthusiastic, "Hi , How are you doing?" She looked me straight in the eyes and yelled back at me, "F**** You ! You no good son of a bitch." Even for her, this was shocking behavior. Before I could recover, she continued, "It wasn't good enough that you told your partner to fire me. You have to rub salt in the wound don't you? "But I didn't…" I tried to explain as she screamed, "Go to hell" and stormed off. She was convinced that I had intentionally tried to ridicule her immediately after she was fired. This woman hated me for the rest of her life.

I was reminded of this incident when I read about Katie Couric's new book, "The Best Advice I Ever Got" in USAToday, which excerpted this gem from Katie:

         Don't let the turkeys get you down.

Early in my career, I was told time and time again I'd never make it in broadcasting. When I got my first break at CNN, I heard the anchors talking to each other before I went on. To hear them say: "Who is that girl? She looks like she's 16 years old!" was not exactly a confidence booster. When Reese Schonfeld, then-president of CNN, called the assignment desk and said he never wanted to see me on the air again, I was devastated. But I remembered one of those Sandra Boynton coffee cups that said, "Don't Let the Turkeys Get You Down." And I didn't. I decided I would work harder and hopefully get better. And I did.

Katie's Best Advice is flawed. Over the years it has been my misfortune to terminate the employment of many people for a variety of reasons. Katie Couric says she was young, inexperienced, and not all that good back then. When someone (Reese Schonfeld) hires you, gives you your first big break and then goes ahead and puts you on national television, live, do you remember them as a "turkey?" In a recent interview, when asked about this incident, Katie's response was, "Well, I was just 23 then." But she isn't 23 now.

Memoirs are often more about revisionist history, and settling scores than sharing wisdom. Katie means well in encouraging young people to not be crushed by criticism BUT the example she uses has a false ring to it. Couric owes Schonfeld a conversation. If not back then, how about now? Couric doesn't mention how Ted Turner, the co-founder of CNN with Schonfeld, fired Reese Schonfeld. Schonfeld went on to start the Food Network and other media successes. In both of Turner's memoirs and in Schonfeld's book neither of them resorts to name-calling. And Ted Turner certainly isn't known as a man of restraint.

We can all learn a lesson from Katie Couric, but it may not be the one she intended to teach us. Success provides the luxury of forgiveness and time should allow for perspective and comfort. With success comes a certain amount of humility, and letting getting old grudges.

Over time we should all gain a wiser perspective. This should be true for people who both helped and hurt you in the past.

I offer the following proposal. Katie and Reese should have a reconciliation lunch. Reese can pick the restaurant, Katie can pick up the tab, and I'll eat.

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JWR contributor Alan Douglas, an author, media executive, speaker, and attorney, lives con brio- except when he is grumpy.


Don't second guess the deceased
Pain and legacies
Being in the No
The Sixth Sense
Dogs in Danger
Facebook, LinkedIn and the Zuckerberg Exit
Simon Bolivar Would Tell Glenn Beck to, ‘Put A Sock In It’
Children and Grandchildren
Swearing, Shoes, and Mark Twain
How my poor man's Porsche, Virgil, prepared me for life
Leases and Landing Gear
The Oscars, Obama and Job Creation
Damages and Penalties
Obstacles with Impossibilities
Making Others Feel Bad
Referrals and Recommendations
Woodpecker Frustration
Phrases, Not Resolutions
I Was A Crime Fighter and Super Hero
Comforting with Sympathizing
Nautical Worry Killers
Can You Keep A Secret?
Holiday Card Hazards
Sharing, Transparency and Dumping
Red Alert
Readers Respond Regarding Rabbi
Readers: I Need Your Help with my Rabbi
Humphrey Bogart and P. T. Barnum on Fighting with Family and Friends
Columbus, Honors and Hound Dogs
The Free Lunch
When your child suffers
Conversational Transmitted Diseases
Conservative, Liberal or American
Paris, Antarctica and Shopping
Personal Protection
Dispute Resolution
Jumped or Pushed?
Friends and Acquaintances
Revenge and Vindication

© 2010 Alan Douglas