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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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April 2, 2014

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review May 14, 2007 / 26 Iyar, 5767

Avoid caregiver burnout

By Jan L. Warner & Jan Collins

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | As many as 44 million Americans spend a lot of time caring for older parents, in-laws, grandparents and other older loved ones. Many caregivers are mothers themselves, taking care of their own mothers or mothers-in-law. And so, just in time for Mother's Day, we'd like to pass along some tips for avoiding caregiver burnout that we received recently from the American Geriatric Society's Foundation for Health in Aging (FHA):

  • Get information. To help you plan and prepare for the future, learn as much as you can about your older loved one's health problems and needs, and how they are likely to change over time. Learning about care options your loved one may require later will help you prepare and feel more secure. The award-winning FHA guide, Eldercare at Home, includes a wealth of information on caring for an aging loved one. You can find a free, printable version by going to www.nextsteps.net and clicking on "useful links" and "Eldercare at Home."

  • Help your loved ones help themselves. By putting a special no-slip seat in the shower or bath; installing "grab bars" in the bathroom and near your loved one's bed; moving kitchen supplies to lower shelves; or even getting easy-grip can openers and other utensils, you can make it possible for an older relative to keep doing certain things independently.

  • Ask trustworthy family, friends and neighbors for assistance. Perhaps a neighbor can take your mother to the grocery store once a week, or a sibling could help make meals for Mom on weekends. Explain what needs to be done, but try not to criticize if others don't care for your loved one in exactly the way you would. The important thing is that her needs are met.

  • Take care of yourself, too. Eating well, exercising, and taking time to relax and enjoy yourself are key to avoiding burnout. If you take care of yourself, you'll be able to take better care of your aging family member.

  • Don't take it personally. If your older relative has dementia or other mental or emotional problems, he or she may act out or say hurtful things. Remind yourself that this behavior is a result of illness, and try not to take it to heart.

  • Talk about it. Talking about your experiences and feelings can make caregiving less stressful. Join a caregiver support group in your area to be able to share your thoughts, feelings, and information with others in similar circumstances

  • Contact professionals and organizations that assist caregivers. A wide array of programs, agencies, organizations, and individuals in your community can help you manage the challenges of caring for an older relative. Some assistance may be free, but expect to pay for others.

Your local Area Agency on Aging may be your best initial resource. Look in the white pages of your telephone book under "Area Agency on Aging," "Senior Center" or "Senior Services." Possibly, an Area Agency on Aging caseworker can visit you and your loved one and give you information about different sources for the help you need, how much this help might cost and how you can get financial assistance.

Check with your local United Way. Religious organizations, such as Catholic Charities or your local Council of Churches, can also help you find help.

Social workers at hospitals or home-health agencies, and specially trained professionals called "geriatric care managers," can help, too. Generally, geriatric care manager assistance is not covered by insurance.

From there, you can seek out professionals who can give you assistance and advice on paying for the services your loved one needs, helping you complete necessary paper work, and providing transportation to take your loved one shopping or to and from medical appointments. Meals on Wheels, for example, prepares meals and delivers them to your loved one's home. Respite care services offer trained helpers to come to your loved one's home so you can take a break. "Home helpers" visit your loved one for an hour or two at a time to help with bathing, light housekeeping, cooking and errands. Adult day care provides several hours of activities that are supervised by health-care staff. Special adult day care programs are available for people with dementia, depression and social problems. Home nursing services — including visits from Registered Nurses, private-duty nurses, nurses' aides and hospice staffs — can also be arranged.

Taking the NextStep: For more information, contact the American Geriatrics Society at www.americangeriatrics.org.

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JAN L. WARNER received his A.B. and J.D. degrees from the University of South Carolina and earned a Master of Legal Letters (L.L.M.) in Taxation from the Emory University School of Law in Atlanta, Georgia. He is a frequent lecturer at legal education and public information programs throughout the United States. His articles have been published in national and state legal publications. Jan Collins began co-authoring Flying SoloŽ in 1989. She has more than 27 years of experience as a journalist, writer, and editor. To comment or ask a question, please click here.


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