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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 2, 2014

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review May 2, 2006 / 4 Iyar, 5766

Why women can't sleep? Why ask why?

By Marybeth Hicks

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Newsweek Magazine's April 24 cover headline grabbed me like a mugger in the park: "Why Women Can't Sleep."

It's an article that obviously was written for me. I'm a woman. I can't sleep. At last, I thought, I have found the answer to the question, "Why?"

I snatched the magazine from the rack and paid the cashier. I'd have given her more than the cover price of $4.50 if she had asked for it — that's how badly I want to know why women — me included — cannot sleep.

What's more, the cover also promised a sidebar titled "Secrets for Youthful Skin." Good heavens, it's a bonanza.

I figured the information it contained must be sound, since the cover also said, "With Harvard Medical School." They don't let just anybody into Harvard Medical School. I'm pretty sure they only admit people capable of researching difficult health issues, such as why women can't sleep.

But it wasn't only the headline that got me to plunk down my cash, it was the compelling cover photo that sucked me in. Newsweek illustrated its feature with a picture of a woman sitting up in bed, holding a fussy baby, while the clock on her night table indicates it is just after 3 (we presume that's a.m., not p.m.).

The lamp beside her bed illuminates several prescription bottles, one of which is open and has spilled out some medication — sleeping pills, perhaps? Clearly, she's in a bad way.

In the dim glow we also see her bedmate: a sleeping clod of a man, drifting on the dreamy waves of deep and restful slumber. She looks like she wants to kill him.

Did I mention the bags under her eyes? Obviously they are fake, because what model would show up for a photo session for Newsweek Magazine looking this ragged? Besides, real bags are puffier and less purple — I know. Still, the makeup job is effective. This woman looks weary.

The article is chock-full of interesting facts about sleeplessness and offers the latest findings from experts in the field of sleep disorders.

It turns out there are many reasons why we don't feel rested, from sleep apnea and obesity to anxiety and "restless leg syndrome" (that twitchy feeling you get in your legs that makes you flex your feet upward). The article also lists the problems that affect women's sleep at virtually every stage of life, from the onset of puberty straight through menopause.

It even explains how improving our "sleep hygiene" could help us get more rest. "Sleep hygiene" is a term I never heard before. It refers to our habits such as what time we go to bed every night, what shows we watch on television in the evening, whether we pay our bills before bedtime and the environment we sleep in.

This information didn't help me because I can't see how I could ever change my "sleep hygiene." For example, here is what time I go to bed every night: When I am done folding laundry.

I don't really know what shows I'm watching in the evening, because as soon as I sit down in front of the television, I doze off. That's when I know it's time to get into bed, which is when I stop sleeping.

Obviously I pay bills before bedtime because paying bills is something you have to do in the dark. The numbers look smaller when you can't see them. The environment in which I sleep? A home I share with five other people and a dog, any one of whom can wake me by merely snarfing into a pillow while turning over in bed.

The article mentions the demanding roles we women play as sources of stress, one explanation for our inability to snag our fair share of "Z's". We're professionals, wives, mothers, caregivers to our parents, community volunteers — heck, we're even regular people. We have a lot going on.

But I'm not so sure that the pressure of our many roles is the cause of the sleeplessness, per se. It's that juggling all these jobs requires time to think, and there's no time to think during the day. We can only think at night, when all the people we're serving are asleep and will finally leave us alone.

I get some of my best thinking done while I'm not sleeping.

Thankfully, I'm past the phase in life that the Newsweek story described so accurately — the time when babies and small children require round-the-clock attention. Instead, I'm at the stage when I wait up for people to finish typing term papers. No, I don't have to stay up. But I know there will be a knock on my bedroom door when the printer paper jams, so I figure why get my hopes up for restful slumber?

Newsweek's story didn't explain an interesting phenomenon that I've experienced for more than 16 years: The lighter I sleep, the heavier my husband's slumber. It started when we brought our first newborn home from the hospital. That first night she wailed for seven consecutive hours. Her crying was relentless.

The next morning, my husband came into the kitchen with a bounce in his step and said, "Wow. She slept through the night. What a great baby."

Despite the helpful information in the magazine, I don't have much hope that I'll start sleeping better anytime soon. No matter what I do, I'll still be a woman, and that seems to be the heart of the matter.

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JWR contributor Marybeth Hicks, a wife of 19 years and mother of four children, lives in the Midwest. She uses her column to share her perspective on issues and experiences that shape families nationwide. To comment, please click here.


© 2006, Marybeth Hicks