In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 23, 2013/ 13 Iyar, 5773

Of damnation, and staring back

By Christine M. Flowers

Christine M. Flowers

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) "We must probe to the bottom of our collective wound. As men, as Americans, we can no longer cringe away and lie. Are we not all warmed by the same sun, frozen by the same cold, shone on by the same lights of time and terror here in America? Yes, and if we do not look and see it, we shall all be damned together." — Thomas Wolfe, "You Can't Go Home Again"

Last Monday felt like damnation. Again, someone attacked the core of us, sending the cruel message that years may pass and memories fade, but evil is eternal. It is also random and greedy, ripping through a brilliant spring day to claim unwitting and undeserving victims. First we are shocked, although after 9/11 and Newtown, not as much. Then we are angered, vowing to hunt down the inhuman beings who make incoherent statements with the blood of innocents. And through it all, through tears, we see the smiling face of an eight year old little boy and think that this time was the one that finally breaks the spirit.

But then, like all the times before, we roll up our sleeves, take a deep breath and stare back, defiant.

We did it in New York a decade ago when the unthinkable flew out of the skies and shattered our sense of normalcy. We did it, more slowly, last December when a well-armed lunatic turned a schoolhouse into a battlefield. And we will do it now, with Boston and for Boston. We will set aside any superficial rivalries and stretch our hands out to those fellow Americans and sibling city-dwellers who share our hopes.

This is who we are. We are the marathoners who keep pushing our exhausted bodies and run to hospitals to give blood, with miles to go before we sleep. We are the father who, having lost two of his own sons to tragedy, jumps across a safety barricade to render triage to someone else's. We are the first responders, civilians and professionals, who rush toward the violence and the smoke to carry our stunned brothers and sisters to safety. We are the doctors trying against all odds to save limbs and lives and foregoing sleep. We are the ones who refuse to point fingers at Muslims or right and left wing radicals before having all of the facts, mindful of the danger of making enemies of fellow Americans.

It may not be easy to look on the better side of things, given the eulogies that will have to be said for innocent bystanders, given the prospect of five-year old amputees, given the knowledge that we are still so capable of being surprised and humbled. But it is possible, and it is necessary, and it is inevitable for people like us.

This week, I accompanied a client to her asylum hearing in Lyndhurst, N.J. "Mariam" is from Mali, a country that has recently become embroiled in a civil war and for much of its 53 years of independence has treated women like chattel. Mariam is a victim of female genital mutilation, which is a type of violence that few American women have ever faced. It is precisely because Mariam's American daughter would be threatened with that medical torture if her mother is deported that we filed for asylum. We still don't know the outcome of the case, and we hope for understanding and a letter that says "welcome."

But talking to Mariam on the drive to Lyndhurst, I learned yet another reason why the massacre in Boston failed in its intended goal. The bombers wanted to crush us, make us feel their anonymous power to threaten and to maim. They wanted to make us feel as if these principles we cherish and the strength with which we defend them are irrelevant. They wanted to make us regret our open society.

But Mariam said something that will remain with me every time I hear some depressed and defeated American say we have reached the end stages of civilization. Mariam said that living in this country, even at its margins, is more comforting and secure than living in a country like Mali which doesn't even pretend to value freedom and the intrinsic value of each human being regardless of color, religion or in her case, gender. As Mariam noted, "you in America are not perfect, but you move toward perfection. Where I come from, people don't even bother to try."

Something horrible happened to us last Monday. We did not deserve it, and we were unable to avoid it this time. But we are not changed by this act of terror. If anything, it has simply confirmed that evil exists, but that it will always be met by exceptional, courageous and resilient Americans. Thomas Wolfe's fears are unfounded. Far from damned, we are blessed.

Christine M. Flowers is a lawyer and columnist for the Philadelphia Daily News. Comments by clicking here.

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