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April 21, 2014

Andrew Silow-Carroll: Passoverkill? Suggestions to make next year's seders even more culturally sensitive

Sara Israelsen Hartley: Seeking the Divine: An ancient connection in a new context

Christine M. Flowers: Priest's execution in Syria should be call to action

Courtnie Erickson: How to help kids accept the poor decisions of others

Lizette Borreli: A Glass Of Milk A Day Keeps Knee Arthritis At Bay

Lizette Borreli: 5 Health Conditions Your Breath Knows Before You Do

The Kosher Gourmet by Betty Rosbottom Coconut Walnut Bars' golden brown morsels are a beautifully balanced delectable delight

April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 16, 2012/ 24 Nissan 5772

'Mommy wars' obscure the real issues

By Kathryn Lopez




http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | "Choice" is the word. It's meant to stop all conversation, all debate, to avoid directly addressing topics people don't really want to talk about anyway: life; death; children; balance; identity.

But we girls -- and the men caught in this web of emotional and political confusion -- may just be fed up with that insulting manipulation.

The "war on women" that the White House, the Democratic Party and their allies in Planned Parenthood insist the Republican party or the Catholic Church or Susan G. Komen Foundation are waging may have finally jumped the shark -- thanks to Democratic consultant Hilary Rosen, who decided to use Ann Romney's stay-at-home motherhood against her.

Rosen said that Mrs. Romney "has never actually worked a day in her life" and thus was born a media dust-up of epic proportions. But something else she said deserves more attention.

On a recent CNN appearance, Rosen asked, "Can we just get rid of this word, 'war on women'?" She then claimed: "The Obama campaign does not use it, President Obama does not use it -- this is something that the Republicans are accusing people of using, but they're actually the ones spreading it."

This is a lot of high-grade bunk.

The "war on women" is a favorite fallback, go-to attack strategy of the left. Democrats love to scare women into voting for them. It's a cynical, divisive issue that draws an instant response, which is why it's often trotted out, even in intra-party battles on both sides. The value of the tactic lies in voter mobilization. Democrats assume that women are all in favor of legal abortion and now a government bureaucracy mandating contraception, sterilization, and even abortion-drug insurance coverage. It's an insulting assumption. And it caught up to the Dems in the 2010 midterm elections, when for the first time since it's been tracked (1982), Democrats did not win a majority of women's votes.

And so in a perverse way, Rosen's ridiculous claim about the "war" being a GOP delusion gave some credence to her subsequent apology to Ann Romney for insulting not just her but all women who have ever chosen to work in the home raising children.

Rosen's comments were cynical and partisan but also familiar -- it's all too often socially acceptable to say derogatory and patronizing things about stay-at-home moms. If the GOP hadn't made such an issue of it -- if this weren't in the midst of a presidential election -- Rosen's comments might have come and gone without much notice. After all, we're living in a culture that expects certain things of women: To find fulfillment in a career and to never rely on a man for anything.

Rosen's comment is worth meditating on not because it's a Dem vs. Republican thing but because it cuts to the heart of our collective cultural identity.

Anyone wanting to have a constructive public policy conversation today should be reading W. Bradford Wilcox, a scholar at the University of Virginia. He'll point out to you that 74 percent of married mothers working full-time outside the home would prefer not to be away from home so much, or even at all.

Wilcox has found that about half of American women approach their work-life decisions in shifts, "according to the needs of their children." When they have infants and toddlers, they may stay home. When the children are older, they may work outside the home on a part- or full-time basis.

Many women were schooled to be professionals of some sort. We were prepped and we excelled, but at the cost of some of the deepest human longings and biological timetables. But men and women still do meet and fall in love and marry. And the "mommy wars" hyperbole used by the media during the Rosen frenzy don't do the reality of life in America justice.

Increasingly we see women doing freelance work, opening a practice with flexible hours. For a few years, if economics allow, the focus can be on the children and the home. It's a beautiful, legitimate, healthy choice -- one we ought to be affirming, instead subscribing to a world view that considers fertility a right but treats its fruits as more of a burden to fit in our schedules rather than a life-changing gift.

And when we bypass a real conversation on these issues, and the real choices that women want, the media betrays an elitism that misses the poor and working-class families who are more likely to have wives and mothers working more hours than they want to and families breaking up at higher rates.

We are naturally given choices -- not by the government, but by virtue of our existence. Rather than use "choice" as a political and cultural bludgeon, how about acknowledging that government exists to protect the liberty that allows women and men to pursue the choices that are healthiest for the basic unit of a flourishing society: the family?

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