In this issue
April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 7, 2006 / 7 Adar, 5766

Hey, you kids, do as I say, not as I dared

By Lenore Skenazy

Printer Friendly Version
Email this article

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | In a way, Emilie Neumann Muse was just a normal mom.

Sure, she spent her youth wrestling alligators, flying planes and leaping out of them.

One time she swam around Manhattan to prove she could. Another time she swam for 24 hours straight — same reason. It was that kind of era: the Roaring Twenties. You wanted to make a splash, you got buried alive. Muse did and lost 11 pounds!

But just like all the other moms (and dieters) I know, the Bronx-born daredevil was terrified of one thing:

Telling her children how she spent her youth.

According to a New York Times obituary of Muse, who died in East Patchogue last month at 98, she didn't want to prove "overly inspirational." So she didn't tell her kids she'd been the toast of New York and, by the way, INSANELY RECKLESS, until they were safe, uninjured, possibly-boring-but-who cares?-they're-alive, grownups.

"That's normal," says a friend I'll call Lucia, for reasons that will become obvious.

Lucia believes you should treat your kids like a job interview: no need to tell them all the times you screwed up. For instance, "I won't tell them that I climbed the Brooklyn Bridge one day when I was 22."


"It was like climbing the Rocky Mountains — so tall and irresistible," Lucia recalls with gusto.

My pal Patty, now a paintings-on-the-fridge mom, is keeping quiet, too.

"I walked across the Long Island Expressway because I didn't want to go all the way around to my friend's house," she says. Then there was the hitchhiking. The drugs. And the 64 days she didn't show up for high school. Why let her kids know you can do all that and still end up running the PTA?

Brenda, yet another pal, has zero intention of telling how she and her friends wandered the sewer system — until the day one of those friends fell into the murky waters below. "We took her home and hid her until she got dry," laughs Brenda.

Sure it's funny in retrospect. In fact, it's those crazy, near-disasters of which memories, and maybe even maturity, are made.

But it's not a mother's job to inspire them. That's why, like mama Muse and all the other mamas I know, I'm clamming up. For the record, my youth was spent in Sunday school. That alligator bite on my back?

Eat your vegetables.

Every weekday JewishWorldReview.com publishes what many in in the media and Washington consider "must-reading". Sign up for the daily JWR update. It's free. Just click here.

JWR contributor Lenore Skenazy is a columnist for The New York Daily News. Comment by clicking here.

Lenore Skenazy Archives

© 2006, NY Daily News