In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Feb. 21, 2011 / 17 Adar I, 5771

Leases and Landing Gear

By Alan Douglas

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | We can simplify this concept a bit. When you move out of your apartment early and want to find another tenant to take over the rest of the term of your lease, you either sublet or assign your lease to the landlord. Under a "sublease", all of your rights and responsibilities under the lease go to the new tenant), BUT they all flow though you. So if the new tenant who sublet from you does something wrong, the landlord can go after you. If the new tenant wants to sue the landlord the new tenant only has the rights you held. Under an "assignment" with a release it is different. The landlord and the new tenant deal with each other and you walk off into the sunset, without a care in the world. The point I want to make is that when you take on a task, which is an obligation or duty in business or personal life, short of an express release, it will be your responsibility when something goes wrong. It does not matter if it is your fault or someone else's fault. It is still your responsibility, and your fault. You can delegate, command, assign, agree, instruct, or order, someone else to do something. You can give them all the training, rules, support, tools and authority to do it; but the responsibility is still yours. And responsibility means liability.

The single most important rule for success, former New York City Mayor Guillani said was given to him by his boss, who cautioned him that prior to each trial it wasn't good enough to prepare; you always had to over prepare. You had to plan out everything you were going to say and then think of how the other side would refute your points. And then, you had to be ready to defend what you said. Plus, you had to prepare to refute everything the opposition might say even if it wasn't true or correct. Enthusiasm isn't enough. A good attitude or great technology will not substitute for preparation. To really succeed you must be ready not only to talk, but also to handle problems, questions or objections.

And what happens when you encounter a problem you didn't think of and didn't prepare for? On September 11, 2001 terrorist attacked the City of New York, closing off parts of the city and shutting down communications and transportation. New York had never conducted emergency preparedness for two airplanes piloted by terrorists crashing into and destroying buildings. But the City of New York had prepared emergency plans for other disasters; a building collapse, airplane crashes, bombings and for communications failures. They were able to adapt each of these individual disaster plans and coordinate them to cope with the actual crisis. Through 'relentless preparation" the City was in a position to deal with the unexpected; otherwise they would not have been able to restore the essential services, get the New York Stock Exchange back up and running in three days and act as quickly as they did. When you have a responsibility, make it a practice to prepare. Over prepare for what you can think of, and you will be better prepared to deal with the unexpected.

President Ronald Reagan was asked how there could ever be any peace on earth and an end to the Cold War if he was not willing to trust the Russians. Reagan responded that he wouldn't hesitate to trust the Russians, as long as there was also verification. Before you pick up the phone to buy something, offer to host a bachelor party, or take responsibility for a project, how "over prepared" are you? Being prepared includes verifying what is true.

It is inevitable that when we place our trust in our friends and colleagues, that intentionally, or not, they cause us injury. They may forget to pick up the dry cleaning or miss critical deadlines. They thought they secured the airplane's landing gear. But no matter how innocent or negligent their mistake might be, it often becomes our own. Ships sink at sea because of mistakes by one sailor. But it is the Captain who is responsible for the training, direction, and supervision of the ship. "The enemy is anybody who's going to get you killed, no matter which side he is on," warned Joseph Heller in his book, "Catch 22." Your friends, subcontractors, executives can "get you killed."

It isn't about trust or feelings of self-esteem. Freedom and creativity should be nurtured but a good checklist makes sure the land gear is down and ready for landing. If you are in charge, or say you will do something, then you are responsible. You can delegate the authority to someone else, but the responsibility stays with you. Your career, integrity, and safety, all demand that you over prepare yourself when you are in charge. It is a good lesson to learn and to teach others.

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JWR contributor Alan Douglas, an author, media executive, speaker, and attorney, lives con brio- except when he is grumpy.


The Oscars, Obama and Job Creation
Damages and Penalties
Obstacles with Impossibilities
Making Others Feel Bad
Referrals and Recommendations
Woodpecker Frustration
Phrases, Not Resolutions
I Was A Crime Fighter and Super Hero
Comforting with Sympathizing
Nautical Worry Killers
Can You Keep A Secret?
Holiday Card Hazards
Sharing, Transparency and Dumping
Red Alert
Readers Respond Regarding Rabbi
Readers: I Need Your Help with my Rabbi
Humphrey Bogart and P. T. Barnum on Fighting with Family and Friends
Columbus, Honors and Hound Dogs
The Free Lunch
When your child suffers
Conversational Transmitted Diseases
Conservative, Liberal or American
Paris, Antarctica and Shopping
Personal Protection
Dispute Resolution
Jumped or Pushed?
Friends and Acquaintances
Revenge and Vindication

© 2010 Alan Douglas