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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

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Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

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Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

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Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

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Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

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Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

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April 8, 2014

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Jewish World Review Feb. 12, 2007 / 24 Shevat, 5767

Caring for independent, aging parents

By Jan L. Warner & Jan Collins

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Q: My parents are in their late 70s and, of late, have been failing both mentally and physically. My father has fallen several times, and my mother has been getting lost while driving home from church. I have no brothers or sisters, and my folks' neighbors have been expressing their concern. I was finally able to sit down with my parents and get them to understand that I was not trying to take away their independence, but only to help them live at home as long as possible.

My husband and I have four children, two of whom are still in college. We both work, and, as it has been said, "Our plate is full"; however, we recognize the need to make sure my folks are watched over. I have been reading as much as I can about the options, and have become generally confused about what is available and when it should be used. Is there a "primer" available on this topic?

A: Based on our experience, you hit a "home run" for both you and your folks when you were able to convince them that they need help and that you are not trying to take away their independence. If you can keep this trust in your relationship, it will go a long way toward making the future transitions as seamless as possible.

Everyone wants to remain home for as long as possible, and studies show that remaining in the least restrictive environment for as long as possible carries with it the most benefit. But each family situation is impacted by different facts, including safety and economic concerns. Therefore, before you can begin to develop a long-term care plan, you must understand the options available.

As first steps, we recommend 1) a face to face by you and your parents with a geriatric care manager (www.caremanager.org) who can assess your parents' needs and assist the family, and 2) an appointment with a qualified elder law attorney (www.naela.org) who can assess your parents' legal documents and, where necessary, prepare health and financial powers of attorney, wills, and the like.

The term "long-term care" refers to the type of care required for persons who are physically or cognitively impaired or disabled to the degree that they can't safely live or function without some level of assistance from others.

The basic levels of care, defined in the most simplistic terms, are, in order of severity: — Acute Care. If medical needs can only be provided for in a hospital, this is acute care, which is rarely a planning option because those who need hospitalization are admitted due to medical necessity, not planning.

— Nursing Home Care — Intermediate or Skilled Level of Care. This type of care is provided for in a nursing home and can include rehabilitation after a hospitalization. It requires nursing staff 24/7.

— Residential Care or Assisted Living. A step below skilled or intermediate care, this type of care is provided in a facility and is designed for those who don't need skilled or intermediate services, but who do require varying degrees of supervision and assistance with some activities of daily life. The primary difference between a nursing home and a residential care facility is the absence of nurses, although some assisted living facilities have nurses available or on staff.

— Home Care. Home care is generally limited to those who are able to operate with sufficient independence or who have a family structure that allows them to remain at home. In some instances, sitters are used on some basis (www.homeinstead.com), but this can get pricey. It may be possible to secure nursing assistance through various Home Health agencies, and if the family member meets the criteria, Medicare may pay for this service although the requirements are very strict. To alleviate some of the family burdens, many people use Adult Day Care facilities.

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JAN L. WARNER received his A.B. and J.D. degrees from the University of South Carolina and earned a Master of Legal Letters (L.L.M.) in Taxation from the Emory University School of Law in Atlanta, Georgia. He is a frequent lecturer at legal education and public information programs throughout the United States. His articles have been published in national and state legal publications. Jan Collins began co-authoring Flying SoloŽ in 1989. She has more than 27 years of experience as a journalist, writer, and editor. To comment or ask a question, please click here.


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