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Jewish World Review
Jan. 29, 2009
/ 4 Shevat 5769
A Very Short Course in Becoming a World-Class Communicator
By
Marty Nemko
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Most people think they are better communicators then they in fact are. It
is extraordinarily difficult to be an excellent communicator, but I
believe the essence of that skill can be reduced to these few principles:
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Rule of thumb talk 30 to 50% of the time and encourage your protégé
to talk 50 to 70% of the time.
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Use the Traffic Light Rule of communication: During the first 30
seconds of an utterance, your light is green: your listener is paying
attention and not thinking you're a blowhard. During the next 30 seconds,
your light is yellow. That means the risk is increasing that your listener
is bored, overwhelmed, or dying to respond. After the one-minute mark,
your light is red. Yes, occasionally, you can go beyond a minute, for
example, when telling an interesting story, but generally you should stop
or ask a question.
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Really listen to what your conversation partner is saying and how
he's saying it. For example, notice when he changes his tone of voice or
body language.
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Don't interrupt unless you think it really will benefit the
conversation.
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Many people hate unasked-for advice. Others welcome it. To be safe,
when tempted to give advice, say something like, "Would you mind if I made
a suggestion, would you rather I ask you questions to help you solve the
problem, or do you want me to just listen?"
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When you're not sure you understand, say something like, "Let me be
sure I understand." "Then paraphrase what your conversation partner said.
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Criticize infrequently.
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To soften the blow of a criticism, couch it gently, for example,
"Would you mind if I made a suggestion?" On getting the okay, say
something like, "I'm wondering if you might try doing X. What do you
think?"
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Rarely will you feel glad you showed anger to your convesation
partner. So, as soon as you feel yourself getting angry or defensive, the
usually wise move is to excuse yourself and walk away, perhaps to the
bathroom, take some deep breaths and calm down. If, a day later, you still
feel angry, you can bring the issue up. By then, you'll probably do it
more calmly.
I think you can see that being an excellent communicator is far from easy,
but it yields huge payoff both professionally and personally.
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